Is it normal to think that you may be doing the wrong thing...?

Question

I am getting married in 3 days and I am not nervous, I just keep thinking that it's forever and do I really want it and will I be making a mistake. Are these normal thoughts?? Thanks!

Answer 1

The only time I have every felt that way in a relationship that was long term was with a guy that I dated for 11 months. I kept trying to make it right, but it wasn't right. He was a nice guy and a good match on paper, but we just weren't a fit.

I don't know if it is normal to feel that way. I think it normal at times to think-whoa, this is forever, but to actually feel like I was making a mistake? That is a red flag to me.

Answer 2

I always say that anyone who does not question their decision to marry at least once does not understand the seriousness of the decision.  You should be thinking about it and deciding whether it is right for you.  It is the most important decision you will ever make.  It is perfectly normal.

Answer 3

I think it is...but remember, you'r getting married! it's probably your first time.  Think about other things you did for the first, were you nervous? did you wonder they were the right thing to do? I'm sure those things turned out well :-)  Once you get past the ceremony, you'll feel relief.  But remember, a relationship is a living thing of it's own, and just like you two worked on it while dating, you have to continue working on it in marriage...never take one another for granted...and always show appreciation and respect for one another.  Be a team! and always treat each other like, and be, best friends!

Answer 4

everyone gets cold feet, it wouldnt be normal if you didnt

Answer 5

Fleeting doubts are normal. Heavy and persistent doubts are trouble - either you're not confident in the decision itself, or in your ability to make good decisions. You will always find yourself asking "Am I doing the right thing?" - it's natural; some decisions, especially, have profound implications on our lives. As long as you can keep your doubts at bay, you're fine.

Answer 6

It's pretty normal.  Were you happy before this?  I mean with everyday life were you happy?  Is it just the feeling of such permanence that's making you question it?  Because it might just be anxiety.  If you've been wondering all along what you are doing with this fool then I would say rethink it.  But if it's just recent stress then you're probably fine.

Answer 7

Yes, it is normal to have those feelings of nervousness.  You are taking a major step in your life and the stress of preparing for your wedding day just adds to the anxiety.  Enjoy the ride, you've gone this far.

Answer 8

Of course it's normal. Most people feel like that, and it would be weird  not to be a bit scared.

When you get overwhelmed, ask yourself why are you marrying your fiance. Think of all the things about him that make you love him. That should calm your nerves and reassure you.

Answer 9

I sure hope so because I get married in a month and I feel that way. I'm so afraid that I am making the wrong choice. Sometimes I wish I could just call off the wedding altogether because we've been living together for three weeks and I get so unhappy. I don't know if it's normal or what.