Is it normal to want a child THIS bad??

Question

My partner and i would like i child very badly. it took us forever to get pregnant then when i did i was EXTREMELY paranoid and afraid i would miscarriage, then i did miscarry. my miscarriage just ended about 2 days ago and everytime i see a pregnant woman i want to cry or get FURIOUS. i just want a child very badly is this normal. i feel physco like this is running my life. i want a child soo badd when i see pregnant women i am so envious. IS THIS NORMAL?? IT BEGAN WAYYYYY BEFORE I EVEN CONCIEVED. WHEN CAN ME AND MY PARTNER TRY AGIAN?? is now to soon after a miscarriage with no d&c??

Answer 1

I don't think it's weird at all. I am 30 and my clock is ticking like CRAZY. I'm not even married though so I HAVE to wait. All of my friends are pregnant and having kids. I am envious but not angry at them, I know my time will come. Because of your miscarriage though you are dealing with stress from that too. Miscarriage is actually not that rare. The stats say about 20% miscarry but it may actually be closer to 40-50% (some women may miscarry without ever knowing they were pregnant). I look at miscarriage as a way of our bodies telling us we're not quite ready physically. Our bodies need time to get into "baby nuture" mode and hopefully that happens for you soon! Don't be discouraged.

Answer 2

I personally think it is normal to want another baby that soon but i would talk to a few speecialts first just to make sure everything is in place!! TO HAVE A NEWBORN

Answer 3

no some people want a child so bad they steal one "don't do that though" as for trying again my sister in law had a miscarriage once and the doctor told her to wait one month before trying again and she was pregnant within two months  and now has 2 wonderful children the fact that you want one so bad could be stopping you try relaxing and not thinking about it for a while

Answer 4

Ask your doctor.

But I COMPLETELY identify with you about the crazy child-wanting lol..

it's destroying me inside.

I pray to God this is my month,

PLEASE let this be my month.

Ugh.

Answer 5

It is so normal. I felt the same way. I wanted to cry everytime I saw a baby or a pregnant woman. I wouldn't go to baby showers and the only thing I could think about was having a baby. It does feel like it runs your life because you can't think of anything else. I wish you all the luck in the world.

Answer 6

I think all women have this feeling at one point in their life. I have PSO and so it is very hard for me to get pregnant. I do have two daughters but I also had a miscarriage. My doctor has given me options to have a child by medical means and I think I am going to try that.. Check with your doctor see if that is an option for you and Good Luck to you.

Answer 7

Yes, it's normal to feel this way.

I would suggest that you find a good counselor who has helped women deal with emotions related to fertility.  It will help to get some help on how to handle this.

As far as when to try again, if you have miscarried, you need to see a doc.  He/she can tell you when it is safe to try again.  Usually 3 months.

Answer 8

you should prob wait about a month to try and conceive!

but i think it is very normal for women to be like this!

Answer 9

I totally understand how you feel....I was showing symptoms of pregnancy and was so sure this was it for me. I got a false positive, and went to the doctor to get checked out and i was crushed when he told me i wasnt pregnant. I cried for days and just like you, when i see a pregnant woman or a woman with her husband and young children i get very emotional. It also seems like everyone else is super fertile! Im sure my experience doesnt even compare to yours. You have been through a lot, it is only natural to want what you have tried so hard for, and it was just taken away. Hang in there. As for trying to concieve, i would talk to your Doctor, every woman is different. After my sisters miscarriage, she was advised not to try for 2 months to allow hormones and her uterus to regulate. But i believe that the circumstances depend on the effect on your body and how far along you were. Good Luck! i hope things go as you had hoped:)

Answer 10

This is completly normal. You fail and are envious with all others who suceed. But its ok. Go to your doctor and get some solutions =)

Answer 11

Yes, it is normal.  Please check out this site:  www.fertilethoughts.com. It helped me so much during my 8 year journey to have a child. The women are wonderful, and it helps to share your feelings with others who know exactly what you are feeling.  Hugs.