Is it normal to want another baby so soon??

Question

I'm 17 almost 18 n i have a little girl who is 9months old and I'm so desperate for another baby. I live with my bf of 3years, we are both working and are coping really well with our little girl. I have spoken 2 my bf & he is just worried that our next baby wont be as conteneted as our first (She never crys & is always happy, sleeps & eats well)!

Is it too soon to have another baby??

Do i really want another or is it just a stage im going through?? Do most mothers feel like this so soon after there first??

Please help

Answer 1

yea- I feel the same way. I think I miss being pregnant the most. My son has already gotten so big. 20 pounds! (He's 6 months old.) I think it would be a lot of fun to do it all over again- but this time KNOWING what I'm actually doing!

: )

It's normal... and if people try to knock you for your age- don't listen to them.  

Answer 2

Yes it can be normal, but not a good idea at such a young age and not married!

Answer 3

it's perfectly normal trust me, I feel exactly the same way and I only had my little'un 4 weeks ago lol!! i hated being pregnant and the labour was excriutiating but id do it again tommorow if it wasnt the fear of my next baby being the complete opposite ( my little'un is an angel aswell when it comes to sleeping eating and being happy i couldnt of been more lucky!! ) but u never know the next one could be just as good, just do what u and ur partner want to do its down to you too raise them so dont do what everyone else tells u just what feels right, Good Luck!!!  

Answer 4

Maybe you are just a natural mother!

But as you say all babies are different, the next one may be a screamer, but you will have to have it to know, both my babies were contented and slept well but I like to think it was because I was a contented mother, it does help if you are calm it rubs off on your baby!

Good luck anyway.

Answer 5

IT'S NORMAL ONCE HSE HAVE A BABY AND THEY START GETTING OLDER YOU MISS THAT LITTLE BODY I WAS LIKE THAT TO AND HERE I AM PREGNANT AGAIN I LOVE BABIES ALWAYS HAVE AND IF I HAD THE MONEY I WOULD BE LIKE JOHN AND KATE PLUS EIGHT BUT I DONT HAVE THE MONEY SO I THINK I'LL STOP AT 2 FOR NOW BUT IF I EVER HIT THE LOTTERY I'LL HAVE A HOUSE FULL!!! SO NO IT'S NOT WEIRD IT'S NORMAL

Answer 6

i have two boy david 2 1/2 and bryan 4 months and im pregnant with my third 6 wks gone i really wanted another one but now im not so sure but to late but i am happy

Answer 7

Well ur too young to be having kids, and since u already have one you need to stick to that one for quiet a while before having another one.

Answer 8

It's normal. I think most mom's feel that way. You see your little baby growing up so fast and it's tempting to want it all over again. My son is only 5 months and I have been feeling that way for a while. Logically I know it's a bad idea. Just because your first is easy doesn't mean the next one will be in fact generally they aren't.  I have had lots of friends tell me to stop while I am ahead.

Whatever spacing you decide on will be right for your family. I have friends that have babies 12 months apart and some 3yrs apart. It's a hard adjustment to have babies close together but you can get through it.  

Answer 9

Well i wouldn't sit here and tell you not to have another child, i was pregnant with my second child by the time i was 18!

Every time i have had a baby i tend to think of the next child as soon as i have given birth.  I don't agree with another post that says you are after a new doll - i think you just have the urge to expand your family.. Maybe you would like to just enjoy the undisturbed time you have with your daughter?

Don't try to conceive, just "don't prevent it"..

Whatever you do decide though, i wish you all the luck in the world. x

Answer 10

hi there im a bit older than you im 27 and have 2 kids one is nearly 4 and the other is 16weeks i have a boy and girl everyone keeps saying to me oh you have one of each so you wont be having anymore then!!!! WRONG i wont another one and me and my husband said we would like to start trying when baby is about 7/8months old you try when you want and it dosent matter that your not married i only got married 2years ago so do whats right for your family. good luck to you on what you decide to do.

Answer 11

yeah, you need to wait. I had my first one at 16, (two days before my 17th b-day). And now I'm 19, just found out I'm pregnant, and although I'm thrilled, I know the timing isn't right. You two should marry if you want kids together, that's a lifetime thing, and so is marriage. If you two don't want to by now, you should wait on the kids thing. Also a college degree is smart to get before having a lot of kids because you won't have time to do it later. Only have kids if you can afford them. They deserve a great life with lots of love and toys and fun.

Answer 12

Me too! My baby is the same age as yours and I really want another. I think it must be fairly common as my sister in law (who had her baby the day after mine) is already 5 months pregnant with the next one. I wouldn't recommend having another so soon though as your bodys not properly healed yet and it can cause complications. She has to have bed rest from 35 weeks. I'm waiting till my little girl is one before trying for another. x

Answer 13

It's very normal to feel that way.  I have a 4 month old and I can't wait to have another baby.

Answer 14

It's not too soon to want one, but it may be too soon to handle one.  Having two children under two may be a bit hectic for you and your Boyfriend.  Not to mention all the extra costs that you are going to incur.  Think about it, what you spend on your 9 month old now and double it, plus day care (if you are in need of it) is going to cost an arm and a leg for just one!  Besides the costs, you also need to think about the time that you are going to have to give up with your little one that you have to spend with a new baby.  Enjoy the time that you have with your child now, the time will go by too fast!  I would say, have your dream wedding so that you don't regret that you didn't down the road, have fun with the family that you have now and in a year or so, if things are going well, then think about another baby.  Good Luck and enjoy!

Answer 15

I personally think you should wait to get pregnant again until your daughter is at least one.  But everyone's different.  My girlfriend got pregnant again when her son was only 5 months.  It wasn't planned.  But she is oh so happy with both her children.  

Answer 16

WELL I'M 25 AND HAD MY 2ND BABY 10 DAYS AGO. MY OTHER DAUGHTER IS 2 AND I WAS BROODY AGAIN WHEN SHE WAS 9 MONTHS. THEN 5 MONTHS LATER WAS PREGNANT AGAIN AND HAD ANOTHER GIRL. IT IS DIFFERENT FOR EVERYONE. HAVE ANOTHER ONE IF YOU BOTH WANT ONE.

Answer 17

yes its just natural especially as you have a good baby,yet i know mums who have a difficult baby say they wont have anymore,i have 8 kids,the closest are 13 months apart,i felt broody very quickly after each of mine,probably why i have so many lol,i have now stopped,i need to work to keep them.

Answer 18

it is normal, although some may think crazy. my 2nd child was only 7 months old when i got pregnant with my 3rd. ive not really had any issues with the age gap.  i just love the baby stage and get broody when they are little. The difficulty comes when they hit 3plus and then its hard work. my only concern for you is your age.  At 17 you have a whole life to live, which of course you do with your children. But every now and again, you may want a nite off.... getting a babysitter for one i found easy, 2 a blot harder, 3.. nearly impossible. Just think over the practicalities of it all for now and 5 years down the line. if you feel still happy about it then go for it! x

Answer 19

Wow I'm 24 and don't even have the urge.  Everybody is different.  You can't say it's normal or abnormal to want another child so soon.  

Answer 20

I think that is normal.  Your baby is growing up and there is part of you that wants to keep her small.  9 months is a good age.  Most babies are happy and content during that stage.  It changes though.  Instead of focusing on another baby try finding something to do.  Take courses at the local community college.  That will get your mind off having another baby and give you a chance to better provide for the one you have.  Good luck.  

Answer 21

I did, I am pregnant with my second Daughter and my first is just barely 1, My daughters will be about 17 months apart. so yes, in my experience I wanted another very quickly. I am so glad you have a wonderful little girl, when i read your description of her it reminded me of my first :). in the end it's your(and your bf's) decision if you add another baby. good luck in which ever path you choose

Answer 22

i'd wait. give your daughter what time you have with her between work and life in general. your young and time is your friend

Answer 23

u sound like you kinda want another doll baby like the first child is'nt doing it for you! relax..you're still young you got plenty of time to have more babie(s).

Good Luck!