Is it not possible.....?

Question

A lot of questions have cropped up about men staying at home while the woman went out and made the money. Many men have said that they wouldn't quit working even if their woman did make twice as much as they did because they want to go after their own ambitions. Well I ask this question to those who say women have to stay at home or that is where a woman is best suited.

Is it not possible for women to have ambitions too that are outside of the home? Women too need intellectual stimulation just as men do so even if the husband made more than enough to support them would you demonize a woman who would rather go to work than stay at home?

Answer 1

I always wonder where it is you meet these types of people. My whole life, all of my family and friends have never had any of these issues crop up. That's not to say there aren't homemakers in my family (there are), but it's a conscious choice decided upon by both partners.

I personally wouldn't mind if my significant other made more money than me. I'd be a stay-at-home dad. But ponder this: there's something to be said in the transition from the male dominating the relationship 100% of the time to the new-age assertive woman; not all men in this generation grew up with a mom who had her own career. A lot of guys I know wouldn't be upset so much at the thought of his wife making more money, but the idea that he isn't capable of making as much as her. Men have an innate desire to provide and protect, so there's gonna need to be a lot of adjustment time.

Answer 2

I think both men and women can pursue their ambitions and dreams. It doesnt matter who earns the money or who stays with a family. Along as whoever is in the relationship talks and comes to a decision themselves then its fine.

The most important thing is that everyone has a choice and what is right for you may not be right for someone else

Answer 3

Yes it's possible, and in my eyes, preferable, if it's in the hearts of both partners to do that.

I've known men who were househusbands, they were great! The kids did well in the arrangement, also.

Answer 4

Is it not possible for the man to stay home and be a lazy bum while the woman went to work an made all the money.  Then she would have do buy him a new car to maintain his affections, while he slept around with all the house wives on the block.  I think we may be able to work something out here.

Answer 5

Good work, Christine. Both home and work should be viable options for men and women.

Answer 6

Why would you even have kids if you're going to let someone else raise them?? Hello people since women hit the work in big numbers in the 70s, our society has gone down the crapper!!! A woman staying home to raise her children is not a burden, but a privilege. YOU ARE THE MOTHER!!! Not some babysitter without the sense god gave a goose!!!

Answer 7

If they are married, whatever they make they share. If they aren't married, women don't date men below their social class.

Answer 8

I just don't know a woman that would put up with it.  I catch h**l from my wife daily because I don't bring home enough money (I make $14 an hour) and she has to work too.  I've not been able to find a better job or get promoted so I can count on hearing it daily for quite some time.  In addition to my wife every woman I've ever know (relatives, etc) have beat the living c**p out of their spouses emotionally for every hour they have to work.  And though I cook dinner on weeknights, get the dishes done, get the kids to bed and up in the morning, off to the bus, go over their homework, take out the trash do the laundry etc, I still get the lines about not helping out around the house.  I get to hear almost nightly about how I'm not enough of a man to support our family, so now she's the one who has to support us (though we earn the same thing som mathematically that just doesn't add up).  But who knows, maybe there's this magic lady out there who can respect a man who takes care of the house and kids while she works.  All the ones I know feel that men should be punished for the two income economy through an incessant stream of bitching, whining, crying, yelling, belittling, complaining, occasionally throwing things, threatening to divorce and find a "real" man and withdrawing any affection sexual or otherwise.  Just my experience, and my friends, and my cousins, and my uncle's, and my neighbors, and my dad's prior to divorce.

Answer 9

i know plenty of stay at home dads, and i know plenty of work from home couples... ambition is not exclusive to any one side of the family, nor is the desire to stay at home close to the kids.

I may surely not fall under the category of a male or female, but my wife has seizures, my youngest daughter has major surgery coming up and i have two grandaughters who i love to spend time with AND i have ambitions... i work from home every day because that is where i want to be.

i know not everyone has that luxury, but if it's something you really want then you make a decision to act on it. i see this as a question to be taken by an individual basis. it has nothing to do with s*x or gender at all except for the people who make that part of it.

people are people, i dont think isolating one half of humanity out as if they were a different species has ever made sense. these questions get asked as if there is some great big divider that makes one side more or less human than the other... arent we at a point yet where we can just look at people based off of themselves instead of what group they belong to?

Answer 10

It should be a personal choice discussed between two loving adults. Too many narrow minded people out there still.

Interestingly, many Australian men are staying home and caring for the children, while their wives work. They say it's worked well for them.

Either could work and I would be willing to consider such a situation if it arose in a relationship. That's what relationships are about.

Answer 11

THANK YOU. It is not any more selfish to want a career as a woman than it is to want a career as a man.

Answer 12

Richard are you serious. You would "allow her to work"?

Is she a kid or your wife?

Answer 13

It's never even occurred to me to NOT follow my ambitions outside of the home. I didn't put myself through years of slog for nothing :-)

Answer 14

Hey it's her life, she can do what she wants in my eyes.

Answer 15

great question christine. yes women do have ambitions too and it is no more selfish of women to want a career than it is for men. my bf and i have discussed this at length and when i'm done with college he wants to stay home. we personally don't feel it would be in the best interest of our daughter for me to be a sahm because i've tried it and i was absolutely miserable. it's not for everybody.

Answer 16

It is possible.  Women come in various shapes and colors and races and creeds and casts and relegions and heights and weights.  I have even met a woman who had black gums and who is not of africanese race.  So I think it is possible to come across women who have ambitions too that are outside of the home every now and then.

Answer 17

If children are involved, a parent needs to be there with them until about age 6...

Answer 18

I will only want the happiness and security of the family. If one member feels miserable then the family will not work.

However, the happiness of one member should not come at the expense of the unhappiness of the whole family.

Family must come first. After all, the work will dump you the minute they don't think they need you. Irrelevant if you do a good work or not. While the family is the one that stays by your side.  No mater what happens.

As long as her going to work does not compromise the family, I would not only allow her to work but encourage it.

Of course I will not tolerate any disrespect. A ship can only have one captain. Having more than one will make it sink.