Is it odd I'm 16 and I've never had a boyfriend?

Question

I'm really self conscious about this. EVERYBODY seems to have had even just a fling or have a guy fancy them. It's never happened to me, and it really gets me upset. The only time I've ever made out with guys is at parties, and that's only because they're drunk.

It just brings my self esteem down to rock bottom. I'm a bit chubby, I can accept that, but I'm not grossly over weight. I'm just not a stick. I have some male friends, but they all just see me as a great friend. Everybody confides in me, and people see me as the one they turn to in a time of desperation. I'm sick of that. People talk at me, not with me. I'm sick of being the one that gets burdened with everybody's problems.

Is it weird that I'm 16 and I've NEVER had a boyfriend of any kind? Not even those little kinder garten pretend ones? It makes me feel so undesirable and I hate it because I know if given the chance, I'd be a complete s**t just so I'd be able to think "yeah, some guy thought I was petty enough to sleep with". That really scares me, because I don't want that. But it's how I've come to think of myself. Am I weird?

Answer 1

i was the same way, im 18 now and i didn't get my first boyfriend till i just turned 17 i hated it then because i felt like everyone hated me, but now im kinda glad it happened that way cuz now i found someone who i believe ill be with for a very long time.

but anyways ur not weird and dont ever think that. your just not a s**t and thats good. don't worry you'll find a guy soon enough.

Answer 2

Well I'm 15 and I'm the exact same way..Always the guy's buddy but never the girlfriend. It can be fustrating, discouraging, and can really be a blow to your self esteem.  What you have to understand though is that while all your friends are having fun with their boys, there is way too much drama involved, and most of them will be broken up in the end.  You're perfectly normal. Not weird at all, and I'm sure you're georgious!

Answer 3

Personally, I think it's better that way. High school relationships never last because guys tend to get bored of just one girl. So just be a little patient. You have great friends who think you're great and everyone comes to you when they're in need. You are very loved.

Answer 4

hey dont feel bad. im 15 and im never even been kissed on the cheek by a guy. i had a "boyfriend" pretty much he agreed to go out with me because he thought my firned was goign to beat him up. and its not that im like ugly or anything. im 5'7 and im like 127. i play soccer and track and i have tons of firends its not like im freakiously smart or anything its just the way it is. and yeah if i could i would do anything to know if some guy would like me cause all my friends have done so much...one of them has had like 7 bfs in the summer alone and all my guys friends say im prettier, nicer and funnier than all of them. i guess its just the way it is

and my sister is 17 and never has had a bf. shes like 5'4 and 100 pounds seriously every girl is jealous of her shes georgous!

=] dont feel down your time will come

Answer 5

If your weird so am I. I'm sixteen and have no boyfriend. Never have!

And you know what? Your SIXTEEN YEARS OLD! Why do you need a boyfriend? Why do you want one? I know I don't. I'd rather have friends. Really, don't feel pressured. Your sixteen!

Answer 6

i think its ok. its kinda good that ur not just going out cuz every1 else is but i get how you feel. you could try and find someone you kinda like and see how it works out but try not to look too desprate. i think you should try to be happy with ur life tho until the right day comes. try hanging out with friends more or think possitive thoughts about ur life. just try not to worry so much. ur not the only one who is 16 and has never had a bf b4 ;)

srry im prolly not much help but that was a hard one!

Answer 7

ya your aliitle weird but alls it means is ur mr right hasnt come dont let it get you down! i feel that way to cus only ugly guys ask me out and i dont know why maybe u just need to losse a couple pounds and puit a little makeup on it helped me

Answer 8

Okay relax.  Just because you don't know of someone having liked you, it doesn't mean no one has.  

Being, "drunk" isn't always a terrible sign.  Sometimes it just means they are too shy to do it sober.  

You're one person of very very many, and no you, like every other individual are too insignificant to be "weird."  Sorry if that sounds odd, I'm trying to give you perspective.  Many people feel what you do too, and it's not cause they are weird.  

You may be feeling lonely right now, but trust me it won't last forever.  Unfortunately you may have to wait longer than some people and that is just a crappy fact of life.  Don't think that diminishes who you are though.

Answer 9

naa I'm almost 16 and I never had a girl friend but I don't really care, its just annoying.

Answer 10

My friend's never had a boyfriend either - you're not alone! Some people only go out with someone they see themselves having a proper future with, or wait until they are adult enough (16 in your case) to be able to deal with a proper relationship :) I didn't have a boyfriend for about the space of a year, went out with a prick and then went out with my current boyfriend, who I've been with for the past two and a half years! I count him as my first 'proper' boyfriend. Definitely not weird. :).

Answer 11

Im going through the same thing! :) just do not care about the whole subject im 16 never had a girlfriend and I was worrying if that was weird then I tried to get a girlfriend alot then decided that I should not just worry and it helps sooo much trust me :) have a nice day! :)

Answer 12

It isn't abnormal at all.  I didn't even have a first date until I was 17.  You're fine.  What you do need to work on is you.  You don't think much of yourself, you are setting yourself up for guys to take advantage of you.  You think it is because of what you look like, but the truth is, if you truly like yourself, you'll like yourself no matter what you look like.  What is also true is that if you like yourself, you'll attract people (boyfriends and otherwise) who will like you too.  

You need to stop focusing on how other people see you and learn how to see yourself.  Learn who you are as a person, and what sort of boyfriend you would like to have...and settle for no less.  You have to convince yourself that you DESERVE to be with someone who respects you and your values, or you WILL turn into the girl guys go to for s*x, rather than the one they WANT to be with.

Answer 13

Don't worry about it I was a little player when I was younger. I would have like 9 boyfriends at one time lol. I didn't do anything sexually with them but it was just fun. My bestfriend on the other never, ever had a boyfriend until she was 18. At 18 she met a boy and had her first kiss with him and everything. Everone is different. You'll probably think you missed out because you waited so long to have a boyfriend and others who had boyfriends will probably think they missed out because all they did was spend time with their boyfriend. The only negative thing is that it will be a little more aqward for you when you do have your first boyfriend. Other than that though enjoy you life how ever you want. There is someone out there for everyone when the time is right.

oh and by the way any guy will sleep with any girl. It honestly has nothing to do with looks. We all got the thing they want lol. It will be so much more worth it when it is someone you really like. Don't sell yourself short. Omg you sound just like my best friend its crazy.

Answer 14

Nope. My sister is BEAUTIFUL, 19, and never had a boyfriend. Just like you, she has made out with guys, but that's it.

It sounds to me like you are a very good person and people do realize that. Keep in mind that most teenage relationships are a waste of time and sometimes lead to issues that can not be resolved. Keep being the good person that you are, and you will end up the lucky one who finds a good man.

Answer 15

nahhh

i'm sixteen and never been kissed...

don't worry about it :)

i just have fun with all of my also single friends

Answer 16

just give it time. itll happen. you are fine. i was 15 and the only reason I got one then was because i really liked him and trusted him not just cause he asked me out

Answer 17

Your not weird and it's not odd.Just because others have boyfriends or girlfriends it doesn't matter that you don't have one.Do you have a great family?Do you have great friends?Do you have a good life?Don't worry you'll get one.

Answer 18

so what thats not a big deal. who cares.

i didn't have my first bf, until i was 18 that was 7 months ago and going strong

it just means you have pride and your looking for love not some hook up to have s*x call a bf when he is not and get pregnant.

there is nothing to be embarrassed about. nothing a all.

no if you said you were a high school drop out there is something to hide your face from.

Answer 19

You are not weird. don't rush it either because you could just end up with a jerk. eventually you will get a boyfriend. i am in college and i have a few friend that have never been with anyone, and they are perfectly fine people.

Answer 20

no you just have low self esteem, i'm going through the same thing due to lack of girlfriend. we're also the same age so i know exactly how you feel. there is nothing wrong with you its just the other people. guys will start liking you when you start liking yourself. i've found out the hard way being depressed makes you seem less attractive, so just work on that you seem like a nice person. if you need to talk more just email me. [e-mail]

Answer 21

its not odd at all you are still a kid basically just enjoy it you don't need a boy to complete you at this point in your life

Answer 22

No, your not weird. I am also 16 (okay, fine 15, but my birthdays in one month) and I've also never had a boyfriend. Your not alone.  

Answer 23

No its not weird. I never had a real boyfriend until I was 18. And I didnt even have a boyfriend until I was 14-15. Honestly its really not a good idea to have a boyfriend or girlfriend until you can drive anyway. You cant have a real relationship until you are old enough to accept responsibilty. So no worries! :)

Answer 24

No you aren't! And anyway don't call yourself weird only because you don't have  BF when you are 16.

i can say 2 things!

1. You can wait for the true BF

2. Or decide to never have a BF "which is totally stupid"

well you decide if you will have a BF now or later!

but i suggest to wait...