Is it odd to actually want your man to be more flirtacious to other women?

Question

Many say I am odd and crazy to think this way..but i learned in psychology class that occasional flirting will actually help the relationship. My boyfriend finds it odd but he understands where I am coming from. He tells me that I am the most unique unpredictable female he has ever dated.

I mean, I flirt too, alot but that is just who I am naturally, I even flirt when I don't think I am flirting..and that does not bother him one bit...i mean..im not looking for marriage here..just someone to chill with..

Answer 1

Not at all. Flirty people are fun to be around. Somehow, we make any conversation a bit more exciting, sparkling and memorable. We enjoy live, and it shows. Some people suspect a connection between harmless flirting and infidelity. Let me assure you: IT IS NOT THE CASE. Actually, people inclined to cheat find flirting a waste of time... To each is his own, I guess.

Answer 2

sounds a lil fishhyyy i wudnt want my man to flirt with othrs!

Answer 3

It might be odd- but im with you 100%.  I know that a little flirtation is very healthy, not just for a relationship, but for one's own self esteem.  So long as it is not somethign that is constantly repeated with a single individual, it's harmless and even healthy.

I encourage my guy to do that same.  A big reason for me is that i am 5 years older than him.  We plan to marry, but since i'm so much older and have been dating twice as long as him, i have issues with him not being as experienced as myself.  I feel that if i give him 'freedom' to be friendly with other girls, he won't get bored or curious later on.  Ya know?

Unfortunately, jelousy and insecurity is the norm,so for now, you and i are just gonna be 'odd' girlfriends.  And i'm fine with that, so you should be too!  And i hope your boyfriend can appreciate that.  Mine does!

Answer 4

Yep it is healthy because if he constantly stares at you all the time he will get sick of you.  But if that happens all he has to do is leave you alone for a long time and then his feeling will grow back to wanting you again.

Answer 5

Hmm, I guess it would depend on your relationship. Trust is the foundation for a good relationship so if you trust him, then sure. Be careful though, I wouldn't do it. Some men don't have your best intentions.

Answer 6

I don't think it's odd, as long as BOTH of you are comfortable with it, that's all that matters.

My ex and I used to flirt with women sometimes, and when they would flirt with him, it kind of turned me on.

I think that flirting is good fun when you have trust in each other, and communicate honestly and openly...to me, those are essential aspects in having that kind of relationship.

Answer 7

I don't necessarily think it's odd nor beneficial, rather it's a matter of how comfortable your partner is with such behaviour.  I personally would find this unappealing and I don't flirt whilst in a serious relationship.  Other people are more comfortable with it.

In short, if it suits your relationship, it's not odd, it's likely normative behaviour.

Answer 8

Women like men who attract other women.

Women want the man that other women have and want other women to want her man.

Women seem to want to be the alpha males favorite harem girl.

Answer 9

whats odd is a female that doesn't want to get married.

Answer 10

If it's something that you enjoy, then it is not odd.  I personally wouldn't enjoy seeing my man flirt with other women, and I don't flirt with other men when I am in a relationship.

The things you enjoy in your relationship are different than what I enjoy in mine, but neither of them are odd.

Answer 11

I think from the evolutionary point..flirting with others makes you mate seem more "wanted" and desirable, and we want to have s*x with someone that's seen as having good genes, if that makes sense.

Answer 12

I see where you are coming from, but unless there are issues in your relationship I do not think you should have someone change their behavior.  That is more damaging than him not flirting.

I also have a hard time believing you just want to "chill" if you are concerned about the quality of your relationship.  You may not want marriage...but you want more than a friend.

Answer 13

I think a lot of what people consider "flirting" is really just a person being friendly. I see nothing wrong with flirting when in a relationship. I'm completely comfortable when the man I'm dating does it, and the men I date tend to be secure enough not to have a problem when I do it.