Is it odd to ask your boss to say the toast at your wedding?

Question

Ive worked there for 5 years and he's very good at public speaking. My dad has passed away and my uncles and future father in law are terrified to speak in public. Is it odd to ask my boss?

Answer 1

Not if you are very close with him other than work, and he knows you two personally and socially. Otherwise, it would be odd.

I had my oldest sister give the toast to the bride and groom. My second oldest sister was the MC.

Answer 2

Mixing business and personal life is never recommended. Having your boss as a guest is one thing, having him make a speech regarding your relationship life is another. If you are close friends with this man outside of work and he knows you and your fiance on an intimate frienship level than it could work. However if it is a strictly business relationship and you guys don't hang out or go to partis together than I would avoid it. I would ask an uncle or my FiL to get over their fear. you only overcome fear by facing it. The speech can be short and to the point but it IS better off coming from one of your family members or very close friends.

Good luck with your decision!

Answer 3

Tell one of your uncles to suck it up and make the speech.  While you have known your boss for five years and he is a good public speaker he really shouldn't know you well enough to make any sort of personal comments--nor should you want him to.  

Answer 4

The toast is not expected to be delivered by a polished public speaker, they are loving wishes delivered from the heart.  Unless you have mentioned these details and he has offered to do one, do not put him in the position where he feels obliged to give one.

Your BM and MOH should make a toast to Bride & Groom.  Why not start a new tradition right at your wedding and You and your new husband stand and together make a toast sending good wishes encompassing all in the room, who joined you to celebrate your day.

Who knows, it might catch on as this is a dilemma that many couples face

Answer 5

that is a pretty odd request and I wouldn't do it personally myself because it mixes business and personal.  don't put your boss in a father role because that may get messy in the future.  ask your MOH or the best man to do it, keep it in the family or wedding party

Answer 6

It depends on your relationship.  I would say yes it is odd, and it would be showing a great deal of favoritism in the office.  "Did you hear Joe said the toast at Emily's wedding, guess we know who the bosses pet is...."  You get the idea.  I think that it would be a little odd, however if you are close to this person it is a different story.  You should really have the best man doing the toast.  Generally the father of the bride does not do a toast.  Maybe a quick thank you for being there to everyone, but the toast is generally the best mans duty.

Answer 7

Well, most people wouldn't but it all depends on your relationship with him.  Does he know you as a couple?  Does he really know you well enough to know what this means to you and your life?  Most people have someone do the toast that has an insight to one or both of the people that are getting married.  If he has that, then it is a fine choice.