Is it ok for a parent to get/give condoms to his fifteen going on sixteen year old son if ....?

Question

if he (the parent) knows that he is messing around or about to?

Answer 1

Yes, I think it perfectally ok

Answer 2

No!!!! Because if they wan't to be grown and have s*x they get them thereselves or else your just supporting the act.

Answer 3

condoms or 1/2 share in a baby i know what i chose

what you chose is up to you

Answer 4

Yes it is ok.  I have already talked to my 14yo about condoms. I told him that when the time comes, if he is too embarassed to buy them, I will buy them for him.

Answer 5

Yes, I think it's okay, he knows his son his messing around so if his son's going to do that he might as well give them the protection to prevent any nasty STD's or any teenage pregnancies.

However, I think maybe the father should give him a little talk if he hasn't already done so. Make sure that his son really knows about s*x and knows all the little STD's he can get and stuff like that.

Even though I'm a virgin, my mother would say if I ever started to have s*x she would give me condoms and birth control because she'd rather have me have s*x knowing I had some form of birth control.

Answer 6

yeah...yeah well the parent cant control every action of the child so they might as well give them condoms and talk to them about it rather than not and them going around getting girls pregnant...

Answer 7

It's fine, give him some. Don't make a big deal out of it though, if he's intelligent he'll already have a fairly good idea of how to use them and he'll obviously know what they're for. Tell him he's free to ask any questions but don't go ahead and get into huge explanations about s*x without being asked anything first, it's just so bad. And the poster above me is an ***. Punish him for it? What kind of **** is that. It's fun and exciting and a great way to learn about s*x. Your children will have s*x no matter what and 15/16 is perfecly fine if they're an intelligent child. Learn to parent. Obviously if he's sleeping around with a **** load of girls its wrong but that isn't mentioned, if he's just very close with a girlfriend and it's serious it's fine. Jesus people, lighten up. s*x isn't that big of a deal not to mention it's way overrated anyway.

Answer 8

If you're going to do that you should also explain to him how dangerous pre-marital s*x can be and how it can ruin any future plans that he may have. Any plans for college will be shot if he has a baby and the rest of his life will be wasted if he gets an STD.

Why would you encourage your son to have s*x? Don't you want him to save his innocence? I'm not a parent myself (I'm only 19 and still a virgin), but find this to be really strange. I have never heard of any of my friends getting condoms from their parents. Its like you become a part of their s*x life. Think about it.

Edit

To Angelina's Mommy: Good for you! Im not being a smart *** or anything...I mean it. I've seen unplanned pregnancies ruin so many people's lives that personally its not worth the risk for me to have s*x (I'm not saying that your kid wasnt planned or anything, I dont know anything about you) plus there are religious reasons.

You are one of the few exceptions to the rule. A child is not only a huge gift but also a huge responsibility: if a couple isnt ready for it, then there can be drastic consequences. I personally believe that if a couple isnt ready to have a kid, they shouldnt risk having one just to enjoy themselves. The only sure way to prevent conception is chastity.

This is a fifteen year old kid we are talking about here. When I was his age, I still thought girls had cooties (not really, but the last thing on my mind was s*x). This kid has a bright future ahead of him. I would hate to see it ruined all for the sake of having a "good time".

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To Ditto06: As said before by someone else: giving your kid the condoms or any type of "birth control" is encouraging him to fool around. Just like giving a child a soccer ball or a guitar is encouraging him to play soccer or play the guitar. By getting them for him, you are letting him know that its okay to do that. Again, I am far from being a parent, but I would highly advise my kid to stay away from s*x. Its good for them at that age to know how babies are made and stuff, but for them to do it themselves is dangerous.

Answer 9

If you suspect or know your child is sexually active it is the responsible choice.

Answer 10

If i knew my kid was messing around, I would punish him for it.  Although its better to know they are safe if you know they are going to do it, I feel like giving them condoms at that age would just give them the idea that you think its okay to behave that way and i would not want my child having s*x at that age.

Maybe you need to have a sit down conversation about s*x and teach them the risks of STDS and the possibility of pregnancy and tell them that they shouldn't be doing it right.  Atleast if you teach them about how to prevent STDS and pregnancy they might take care of it on their own out of fear, but again i wouldn't give it to them because I think that would just send them the message it was "ok"

but i guess thats just my opinion.

Answer 11

yeah but i would also have the talk if you haven't yet, and possibly even show him how to use it that way he knows that you trust him to be responsible and if something happens he can be open to you with it.

Answer 12

I have one daughter.  If I knew that a parent had given her son condoms...my daughter wouldn't be allowed anywhere near that boy.  I am of the school that if you are too embarassed to buy condoms...you really shouldn't be having s*x at all.  If you don't have the maturity to walk into a store and buy condoms, you have no business having s*x.  People are so afraid to tell boys not to have s*x.  What's the deal?  You know he's going to do it, so just accept it??  Please.  Everyone knows there can still be accidents, broken condoms, failed contraception...if you have s*x, better be ready for a baby.  Tough, but true.

Giving condoms is absolutely giving permission.  You're saying it's ok to have s*x...steal that away from a young lady, just as long as no one gets pregnant or a disease, there's no harm done?

Why don't you go buy him some beer and some drugs, too.  All teenagers do it, right?  So it's ok.

Answer 13

There will ALWAYS be condoms available in this household for our children, girls and boy.  It is NOT just the boys responsibility to bring protection.

Answer 14

I think it is okay to give condoms to your child. Why not just explain to you child what could happen if the condom brakes. (in my case)

But wait dont get me wrong just because the condom broke does not mean i dont love my daughter she is my whole world and i would not change anything.

But to that guy i am 19 and have a daughter and i will be done with high school in December and i am taking college classes as well. Only 2 during the night on the weekend. It is taking me longer than the normal person but i am sure in the h3ll getting it done. And my boyfriend is going to college and working a full time job and were still getting the job done.

Answer 15

I would say it's ok.  I would rather know my child is safe than to know he's doing something, and I didn't do anything to help make sure he's being safe.  Kids are going to find a way to mess around whether we want them to or not ...better to be safe than sorry !

Answer 16

I would rather know that my child is being safe than sticking my head in the sand and pretending nothing is happening.  Giving condoms to your child is not encouraging sexual behavior, it's making sure they are safe.  It's the same thing as wearing seatbelts.  I would insist my 16 year old is wearing a seatbelt but that doesn't mean I want him driving around town like a Nascar driver.  I just want to make sure that he is safe.