Is it ok for an X to be in the picture?

Question

I just wanted to hear different fedback from different people of different ages. Please state your age and gender. How many of you are ok with an X to still being a friend to you after your relationship is over. Do you believe an X is a problem when starting a new relationship with someone new? Do you believe that once is over IS OVER? Also the two of you have nothing with one another LIKE NO KIDS INVOLVE.

Im curious to what people think about this. Thank You

Answer 1

i don'tt think the ex should be in the picture at all, theres going to be jealousy  

Answer 2

Yes I think it's ok as long as you end on good terms.

Answer 3

AGE = 15

GENDER = MALE

yea, of course its ok for an X to still be friends

Answer 4

female, 21

im  ok with it as long as there has been some space since the relationship. preferably if there is at least one relationship in between te current one and the one with the ex and if you are able to get along without biccering (which indicates leftover feelings, if only sexual tension, still a problem) or always coming back to discussions about your relationship

Answer 5

42 - female - Not OK.

Relationships are matters of the heart and after a relationship ends, the matters of the heart do not necessarily end for both people.  Ergo the getting back together somewhere down the line thing.

New relationships are tough enough without dragging past loves into it with you.  Let go of what was and embrace what IS.  Ask yourself the same question.  How would you feel if your new girlfriend wnated to have dinner with an old boyfriend.....without YOU.  But they're just friends, so it shouldn't matter, right?  Should not be a concern at all for you.  So now think about how she feels about this.  In relationships there must be consideration for the other person's feelings at all times.  Having same s*x friends that were never romantic interests is not a problem, but past romantic interests and involved parties still hanging around in the picture is a real problem.  If you care for this girl, you'll let go of what use to be and start focusing on what is right in front of you.  Just my $0.02.