Is it ok for my exbestfriend to be friends with my fiancee were not friends cause she told him lies bout me

Question

Her friend and my fiancee were talking a couple of weeks ago and I seen it on my phone bill but not the messages that were wrote when I confronted him about it he says why does it matter and the girl told me he was saying he wasnt happy with me anymore and I think I know my relationship and other bullcrap so we all argued and finally i got over it and left it alone cause my fiancee stopped talking to her well now my bestfriend went off and told him that I slept with her and other guys that he deserved better. So I wont look at her talk to her dont want nothing to do with her. Now today I looked at the phone bill and see that my exbestfriend and fiancee are messaging eachother. What should I do either way their going to lie if I confront them. Im lost and confused HELP!

Answer 1

tl;dr

Answer 2

Honestly. As much as it's going to hurt, break it off. Obviously, there's a little bit more than meets the eye with those two. Your ex best friend wants to break you two up and since your fiancee keeps talking to her that means there's something else lerking. Maybe they are s******g around. I say, there are plenty of fish in the sea, don't bother yourself with the guppies!

Answer 3

i think that its not entirly ok... your finance needs to know his boundriaes.. u need to sit down and have a talk to him about how it bothers you. but say u know i love you nad i know u love me.. and i trust you but the way ur talking to her and then lying about it amake me uneasy.  be like baby i dont mind u talking to her. just aloong as if its not about me... casue it makes me feel like ur with her. and say if u do talk to her  just tell me so i dont have to see it on the phonebill and wonder.

Answer 4

Did you and your fiance ever resolve anything when you first stopped talking to your best friend? Or did both of you just let what she said drop and didn't talk it through? If you didn't talk it over then I suggest you do that so you get everything out in the open.

This is the man that you are supposed to be marrying. He is supposed to trust and support you no matter what. The fact that he is talking to this girl behind your back is unacceptable.

I would confront your fiance first. Ask him why all of a sudden he is getting messages from this girl. You never know - maybe she messaged him and said something like, "I think you can do better" and he could have responded to her. You just never know. So, don't assume anything or get worked up about anything until you ask.

If he truly doesn't want anything to do with this girl then you can suggest that he change his cell phone number.

You cannot get married to someone that you do not trust...

Answer 5

no, that ISNT okay.

Kill her.

Answer 6

it isn k u got stp him

Answer 7

I think you should dump him and still not have anything to do with her.  

Answer 8

Wow. This must be horrible to deal with. 1st of all- its good that you cut your " best friend" off. Sounds to me like.. she wants your fiancee for herself. There is no other reason why she would tell him your business..  Secondly- he is disrespecting you. If you and her are no longer friends.. then he has no business speaking to her. Out of respect for you- he should know if you cut her off, hes cutting her off. I suspect something is going on. I dont like that they are speaking. There is no reason to! You should CHECK that . If you let it go.. they will continue to do so. If you feel you confront them, and they will lie.. then decide what YOU want to do. Do you want to stay with him and wonder if hes still speaking to her?...

Answer 9

I think you need to get rid of the both of them... Obviously he's a liar & you shouldn't have to deal with that. No it's not good that they are friends, however people can chose to be friends with whoever they want & the truth is that they are both liars so why shouldn't they stick together and make each others lives miserable why you go off & meet someone who isn't lying to you...

Answer 10

I would move on.

If your ex-best friend is whispering lies about you to your fiance and he's believing them...or at least entertaining them by listening and encouraging, then it shows that neither of them have much loyalty to you.  After finding out your ex-BF was spreading lies about you, your fiance really should've cut off communication with her.

Answer 11

So long as they don't **** there's no problem, don't be one of those annoying as h**l clingy ****es otherwise you'll drive him away

Answer 12

If she is causing problems and lying your fiance should understand that an not talk to her!