Is it ok for my husband to run a business with his ex wife? This business is non-profitable.?

Question

I am not allowed at this business because of her. We are unable to go on with any business endeavors because of this situation. Help! I know I am feeling insecure and I have tried to be okay with it.

Answer 1

Why did u even try to be okay with it when the whole situation is not ok at all?? Tell your husband how much it's bothering you, if he cares for you, he will end up this thing just so you wouldnt feel bad or insecure.

Answer 2

I don't think your insecure, just concerned.. and any person would  feel the same. Tell him it's been bothering you.. and ask him to think about if the tables were flipped.. how would he feel?

sadly, it wont do you any good to cause argument or too much fuss over the situation, b/c if he really loves and respects you he will take the steps he needs to to get out of the situation.

another thing you could do is become "friends" with her.. suggest that you all have lunch together and talk about the business, if the offer is declined then something is not right.. you should be a part of it too..

Stay strong, and ask yourself can you trust him??  

Answer 3

he should stop why he devorced her  if he want bo with her every day

Answer 4

I'm not married, but I have been engaged for a year and half. I would say that this type of relationship is not okay. In my opinion, any relationship that either of you has must be made aware and has to be approved by your spouse. And if it's not...then it's wrong. You both really have to communicate and tell how it makes you feel. He should respect how you feel and maybe you can work something out to where the business can continue. If not, then it looks like he has alot to work out with you.

My fiance and I just went through something sort of similar to this recently. He was trying to have a friendship with a woman at his job. Which was fine, but he didn't make me aware of it. I found out by looking at the phone bill. All I could think of was that he was having an affair. Thankfully that wasn't the case, but after I confronted him about it. He lied to me. And has now tore down our trust. He is working to build that trust back up, but I think in the end it will make us stronger. He now knows that he cannot hide relationships from me -- no matter how small or what type it is.

I hope that I've helped you. Good luck on this -- And talk to him!

Answer 5

This sounds very suspicious.   If it were me I would tell him that either I am a part of it or he needs to go into business with you and tell her to find someone else to do her business with.

It sounds to me that the only business they are in together is monkey business.

I would not be ok with it and if he persisted on doing it regardless of my feelings towards it then he would not have to worry about how I feel . I would not be in the picture anymore. I would be filing for divorce and moving on.

Let her have him. Seems to me she already does.

Answer 6

What do you mean, you are "not allowed"? Are you an American wife or a servant? The whole thing stinks and with you lying down, the ex wife is now wiping her boots on you. Insist and go to all their business meetings as advisor and equal to your husband and also insist that their partnership be gradually wound up. Remember, everything the family has is 1/2 yours. Enforce your rights and get some self confidence and respect, or be satisfied to being a doormat.

Answer 7

It's not right for you to be banned from this business just because of her. He supports that? I find it suspicious...

It's also wrong that your business endeavors should be limited because of this. Is he making a living from this business? If not, he needs to figure out where (and WHO) he is committed to...  

Answer 8

i'm speachless...

Answer 9

My first thought was in favor of your husband... until I read the rest of your post. You're not "allowed" at the business??? WTH is your husband thinking? That is 100% wrong! He is allowing his ex to dictate his new life with you. Of course you're feeling insecure, you have every right to be. What's worse is that your husband is silently 'telling' his ex that she can treat you this way. Don't try to be okay with this situation. Stand up for yourself and if you have to, print every reply you get to this post and prove to him that you aren't the only one that thinks this way! He is very wrong. Don't allow yourself to be put below his ex. You should be his first priority, not his EX wife. If he wanted her as his first priority, he should have stayed with her and not dragged another woman into this situation. Some people just don't think!

Answer 10

turn that around there's yo answer rite thar.

Answer 11

why would u even try to be okay with this??? NO WAY IN h**l would I ever allow that and stand for it! tell him its either that business or you! She's an ex for a reason! and your not supposed to be keeping in touch to that level...! i would not take this kind of CR*P! good luck! stand your ground!

Answer 12

You should not have to try to be ok about this. I would be beyond furious!! There's no money to be gained or lost, so he should just walk away. He should do whatever he has to do to get his name out of this business, and be devoted to you, and actually have some respect for you. He is putting his ex wife's feelings before yours. He would leave the business, or I would leave him.

Answer 13

It sounds like an uncomfortable situation that would be hard for most wife's to accept.

Not being "allowed" at the business and not being able to share a new business endeavor with your husband is a very "limited" relationship.  Marriage by law is a complete and accountable relationship. Should something unexpected happen to your husband, an illness or death, you are obligated by marriage to all your husband's business affairs.  

Present these issues to your husband (without drama), stop and "listen to his response", if he does not know how to resolve it, then say "I'd appreciate it if you'll think about my position", then let it go for the time being.  You've planted the seed and now it's up to him to resolve.

Meanwhile, decide what it is you are really wanting from your husband.

Do you want him to resign from the business or include you in the business?  

Good Luck To You

Answer 14

Personally , I would not be okay with it...I don't know wha t you can do about it but it wouldn't happen with my husband and his X. I believe they became their X"s for a reason and them being back together is not a good idea,. Of course, he thinks its okay but what if it were you and your X, I don't think he would like that too much. Do you?

Answer 15

Not okay at all. Esspecially because your not aloud in the buisness, I really hope your husband doesn't support this. Just go to the buisness one day, do a pop in. If your husbands Ex starts anything, just calmly let her know that your there for YOUR husband and she needs to back off. Sometimes you need to get a little cocky to get your point through. Don't be a doormat about it and stand up for yourself. An ex becomes an ex for a reason(s).  

Answer 16

Your not allowed? Is he your husband or father? If it is a non profit, why is she still involved? You take over for her, I'm sure you have brains. I don't like this situation at all. I wouldn't do it. So apparently the two of you don't get along? Gee that is surprising! And what is your husbands reason for you not to be " allowed" at this business? You need to have a long conversation with him.