Is it ok if someone of the opposite gender massages your partner?

Question

Would it make a difference if it was free or paid for?

Marsellus Wallace cares!

Answer 1

My boyfriend bought me three Swedish massages, and I ended up with a male ... masseur?  We actually had a lot in common: we played the same kind of games and had similar senses of humor.  I, of course, told my boyfriend about it, and he was fine with it.

I would be okay with it, unless it was a massage with a happy ending or if it was clearly flirtatious and carried out by a woman who wants me out of the picture.

Answer 2

Its okay, if your fine with a man massaging ur girl, but...i dont think its right..unless ur open minded and....whateva !! iam lost of words...

Answer 3

No, if it is in a spa. Yes, if it a buddy of yours massaging your wife.

Answer 4

If it was a professional masseuse in a legitimate business, then no problem. If it's a hooker in a massage parlor, then we got problems, BIG problems. If a legitimate masseuse was giving my partner a free massage, I would question the motives also. I mean aren't they in the business of making a living? Catch my drift? Why would they give my partner a "free" massage? I wouldn't trust it unless it was paid for and legitimate.

Answer 5

If they are a professional massage therapist it is perfectly fine. They are like doctors in a way. They see so much it doesn't bother them. My husband has gotten a massage therapist to come to our hotel room many times and she will give him a massage and then me and nothing funny ever goes on. I would make sure that they were a professional though with a license.  It's like I met this old guy one time and we were talking and he said his Mother was a stripper and he grew up being back stage with about 20 strippers, watching them get dressed and undressed and he said he just got use to looking at beautiful naked women and it really didn't bother him. Unless, they came on to him wanting s*x and then it bothered him but other than that he just ignored it.

Answer 6

Of course it's ok.  Those people massage so many people they don't even notice.  

Answer 7

i guess it's OK but don't take my advice b/c that never hapened to me

Answer 8

he wouldn't let them it wouldn't bother me unless it got funny

Answer 9

No, it's not okay no matter what.

Answer 10

If she were a professional licensed massage therapist, and he was in her office for medical purposes ONLY, then I would not LIKE it, but I should have no reason to get weird about it.  

If it were just some casual - "hey would you like me to massage you" type deal, then NO WAY.  

Answer 11

I would not be okay with that.

Particularly if it was a female friend.

Answer 12

If the masseuse is a paid professional, and the massage is non-sexual - sports, physio, relaxation - then I don't think the gender of that person is relevant. It is just a professional doing the job they were paid to do.

If however the spouse was getting a rub down by someone other than a professional, then it would depend on a lot of things.

1. Who was doing it. If the two giving getting/giving the massage had a past intimate relationship, then not OK in my book. At the least it would make me uncomfortable, at worst suspicious there was something else going on. If it was someone who did it for a living or hobby, wanting to show what it involved, probably OK.

2. Was it happening in my presence, with my knowledge, or was it done in a private setting, and kept from me?

3. How much of the body was being rubbed -  Neck and shoulders would be OK. Feet OK. Lower back, abdomen or thighs would not. Anything covered by underwear would be cheating in my book.

4. Whether or not, or how much clothing was removed.

5. Whether there had been any other reason to doubt the other's fidelity.

There'd be a lot to consider. But I don';t think I'd be comfortable with it happening if I wasn't there.

Answer 13

yes it makes a different if it's free of paid for. If it's paid for then who cares, the person is a professional (unless you're paying a hooker to massage you with a happy ending lol)

A foot massage ? You know what marsellus would do about that...  

Answer 14

i would never let another woman massage my man

Answer 15

Really depends on why? See, I am in business and that means males call, email and even come into the shop and we talk. You need to know the whys & how comes 1st before you bite there heads off

Answer 16

that's kinda weird..depends how close they are or who she is...hmm i'd say no cause he def not like it if a guy friend was doin it to me ;)

being paid for that's different..that's expected if i'm gon pay for it... haha wat an interesting Q  

Answer 17

As long as it wasn't sexual, it wouldn't make any difference at all to me.

Answer 18

It's ok. No difference if paid or free. If someone is good at something, what the gender is shouldn't make a difference at all.