Is it ok if your wife non vergin before marriage?

Question

I am a married from India I married from last 6 months after two months my wife confess me that she had taken s*x experience with her boyfriend when she is working & living in hostel. I angry on her after that I think its ok now shw is mine.But I nerver forgot this because I virgin before marriege now she is pregnent & I have doubt that she had done s*x with her boyfriend after our marriege or is this baby is my? I am confused I cant ask her because I fear that she hert & I dont want to loose her so tell me what should I do for forgot her past life & my confussion about our baby.

Answer 1

I know that people in India do things a whole lot different then the way they do it in America. You expect your wives to be virgins and obey you as if they were a child and you were her father and if she doesn't do what you want then you use physical abuse to punish her. Americans don't treat their women that way and your country seems very backwards and with old fashion and out of date ideas to us, but I would think your country would know how to do a DNA test to find out if you are the baby's father.

If you don't want to lose your wife, then treat her with love and respect and don't throw it in her face that she wasn't a virgin when you married her.

Answer 2

Well if ur are having any doubts in ur mind then please go for a Paternity Test for the baby and make sure that the baby is urs or not. If its urs  then i think u should forgive ur wife since she has confessed whatever she has done in her past although she is not obliged to do so. Had she not told u about all this then u'd have never ever can doubt about her virginity or about the baby she carried.

But if its not urs then the problem will arise as its very difficult to accept this in our Indian culture. In that case it will be entirely ur's decision whether to keep her with the baby or not keeping in mind the family issues etc.  

Answer 3

Has she given you any reason to NOT trust her after marriage??? If not, then I would not question her.You have been married 6 months right? Then if she JUST got pregnant, then the baby is yours. Unless you suspect her cheating on you, then don't question her. It will only hurt her and possibly damage your marriage.  GL!

Answer 4

Let it go don't bring it up to her she is pregnant and you don't want to hurt her feelings or get her upset. Sounds like you have nothing to worry about and she was honest with you.

Just try to put it out of your mind and go on and live a happy life with her from here on out.

You have a baby on the way focus on that baby and her and forget him he must not have been anything special because she did marry you after all. That alone says you are who she loves and wants to be with.

Answer 5

You cant be angry with her cause she wasn't a virgin when you married her.

This is the past and you are her future so just forget it about it.

If she is pregnant then most likely its your baby unless she has cheated on you but if she hasn't then be happy about the baby and forget about her past.

Answer 6

Hmmmmmmmmm

It is you call lol.

Sounds like she lied just to really be with you.

Dna test time!

Answer 7

Thank God that she has atleast been sincere to you and she meant it - else she would not have even told you and you would never have realised it. So throw it off forget it and do not ruin your married life and your would be kid's life.

Answer 8

Sandy...plz dont take any decision in a hurry and do things for which u may regret later...

She has been very honest with u that shows she loves u very very much.. this kid mite not be from her past relationship

anyways u can check by calculating how much old the baby is..anywaz i would advice u not to go on thinking about the past...the past is past..u cant change it..and u cant afford to lose ur wife do u?u love her equally dont u?? and we are human beings. v mite do mistakes..but u can forgive her..Forget everything and think of the becoming a father soon and enjoy that lovely moment..

Answer 9

HI,

well..its a tricky situation.. do a paternity test or .. only other way is to wait till the baby is born...

cheers

Answer 10

Talk with her about the baby if it is not your then abort it and forgive her for all past deeds and start a new life with her and observe her dedication, understanding and interest in responsibilities, if she really with you now physically, mentally and from every aspects then no problem.

Answer 11

forget her fast and look forwerd.

Answer 12

take her on maury just kidding get a paternity test behind her back far as the non virgin i would just let it be

Answer 13

i'll take a dna test for the baby. you can forget and let go of her lying about being a virgin but the thought of not being sure thats your child, that's gonna eat you up.  

Answer 14

Did you not know each other before you married? Don't tell me this is an arranged marriage? if it is, you can kinda expect this kind of thing to happen..... Wait till the kid kid born and see if it has your features!!!

If the kid looks part like your wife and part like the milkman then you know!!!

Answer 15

If you love her dont make this an issue, I guess you can only hope she is being honest about the baby being yours and father it as if it is yours because if it is and you accuse her of anything it could be the biggest mistake of your life. It's not nice she lied about being a virgin but maybe it was in the name of love, she wanted you to feel special.

Answer 16

Marriage is a life long lasting bond between a Man & a Woman. It was very nice of your wife to let know of her relationship with someone else before marriage. Marriage is based on trust & if this is non existent, you are in deep trouble.

Accept her the way she is. Believe her if she says that the baby is yours. She could have decieved you if she wanted to, by not letting you know of her earlier relationship.

Keep the past aside & look for a better tomorrow.

Answer 17

Her s*x partner may have gotten her pregnant and dumped her. Then she got you to marry her and believe it was your child...

In any event, she tricked you into marriage....you will leave her someday...I can tell.

Answer 18

It is very common for women, just like men, not to be a virgin when they get married.  Traditionally its not the right thing to do, but I believe it settles a wondering mind from someone who hasn't experienced being intimate with someone prior to marriage (they might be inclined to while being married instead!).

Regarding her being pregnant and you being the father, if you have doubts that she slept with her old by after you getting married the only option you have is to take a test.

Answer 19

Belive her,its your child.Any way she has confessed otherwise she can continue her relation and hide it from you.Go ahead make her happy

Answer 20

It would b a best advice for u to forget d past totally. Otherwise u will b no-where.

Also Make her understand dat u hav accepted all her past mistakes n hope dat d same will never b repeated.

All d best

Answer 21

yaar she told u everythng and now u shud trust her.

when she was in a relationship, she do this coz she trust her partner or whatever may be ds reason.

But now she has told u everythng. then plz trust her, its ur kid. She shud be happy that she is loyal towards u & she has confessed all what she has done in her earlier times.

Answer 22

As I read you question...it seems that your trust is lost because your wife is not a virgin anymore. Virginity and fidelity does not correlate. It means that it does not follow that if your wife is not a virgin anymore she can not be trusted...and it does not follow that if your wife is a virgin she can be trusted...as for your question about your baby..you can actually the months of wife;s pregnancy and compare it to the months that you are married to her. Ask you doctor how many months is the baby inside your wife's womb so that you can get almost an accurate answer.  

Answer 23

she told with u bcz she believe u.if she wants to continues that relation,she  never tell u.u got married six months back .did u see any misbehaviour in this time? dont think .first u belive ur wife.she and baby ur's only.

Answer 24

you happy your wife good and you forget past. vergin or no vergin you love her you love baby too you happy family you dont angry you happy you forget past and live future  

Answer 25

Yes it is alright that she was not a virgin. Not everyone is. This does not mean that the baby is not yours. It does not make her a cheater like you think that it does. She did this before you and you should not think that she has done it since being with you just because of that. Everyone has a past and you just need to leave it there. Think of her only with you. If the other images pop up think of something else instead of dwelling on it.