Is it ok not to attend one of my good friends wedding?

Question

My friend recently just announced she's getting married in October, which is two weeks before my wedding date. I've announced my wedding long before she did. Currently, I'm already stressed out about my wedding and I just found out today that her wedding is on a Sunday. We live is different states, so it's really hard for me to attend the wedding especially it's on a sunday. BTW, she's pregnant. I think that's the reson she wants to get married ASAP.

Answer 1

Take a break from your planning and go. Support your friend, and prove to her that you ARE indeed a friend. It is only one day, and when you get back, you'll still have your two weeks to finish last minute planning. :) Congrats to the two of you.  

Answer 2

i'm sure she'll be surprised if you do not show up but i'd definitely try to make it to her big day... that's what friends do and it doesn't matter that you announced your wedding before her, friends are friends and life happens....  

Answer 3

Well if you are so stressed out about your wedding then why don't you just call her or e-mail her and talk. I mean it could possibly be that if she is pregnant that is her reason for getting married. But, remember your day is coming up to so if you have too much planing to do with your wedding by the time hers is here then just simply let her know that you would have loved to of been there but you have your own wedding to finish. She should understand if she's your friend.

Answer 4

She'll understand if you can't get the time off. Just call her and let her know that with all the time you've taken off of your job or school for your own wedding you can't get any more time off. I'm sure she doesn't expect you to quit your job or school just to attend her wedding! Don't mention that you're already stressed about your own wedding. She's stressed too, all brides are when it's close to their weddings. Just blame your schedule. Also, don't expect her to show up at your wedding if you didn;t go to hers. Invite her, but don't be surprised if she doesn't attend.

Answer 5

wow....yes you should go shes your friend and if shes pregnant let her get married, i dont think shes judging you, im getting married in 14 days and i def want my bfs there, you want her there for you too right. is she makes the trip to yours then you should def make it to hers or you may lose that friendship!

Answer 6

I would go.

It's just one day.

Answer 7

I think she should understand that its hard for you to go to her wedding when you both live so far from each other. Plus since it's two weeks before your wedding, she should know how stressful it is to be a bride. I honestly think its fine. If you're not the bridesmaid then when you get the card that says "will attend (check here) or will not attend (check here)" you know which one to check off.

Answer 8

She must not be that good of a friend if you are questioning whether you should attend or not.

Answer 9

How many states away is she?  If it were from Calif to Arizona or Nevada I would say go but Calif to Maine would be different.  If you can't make it send her a nice gift.  

Answer 10

If she's your good friend I would make the effort to go.  She is going to make the effort to support you at your wedding in a different state.  Your wedding being in the same month is not a very reasonable excuse, everyone needs a break from wedding planning. And you need to be a good, supportive friend.

You should go because I'm sure she would be very hurt if you didn't (especially if your reason is because your wedding is more important).  And if you don't, I think in a few years you will regret missing such a special day in her life.  

How would you feel if you were in her shoes and she wouldn't come to your wedding because her wedding was more important/stressful?

Answer 11

If they are a good friend of yours you better go.Especially if you want them to come to your wedding.If you care about your friend and if you want them to talk to you after that.

Answer 12

If attending the wedding includes airfare I would say not to go. Your friend will understand that you can't spend that much so close to your own wedding and that time is precious right before your wedding. I would call and wish her well. If it is a distance you can drive I would say to go. There is no rule that you have to stay to the end of the reception. Stay long enough to speak to the bride and groom ane then explain that it is a long drive back home.  

Answer 13

If I were you...I'll go...she wants you to be a part of her very important day. It would be nice if you'll seek time to attend...your presence can be your very good gift to her.