Is it ok not to tell your husband you got in an accident?

Question

I got in a car accident today. My car is damaged and it will be repaired by Wednesday and my husband comes back from his business trip after that. Would it be evil for me not to tell him? I think he will be angry with me!!!

Answer 1

don't tell him if it wasn't your fault but if it was your insurance is going to go up so he will find out sooner or later.

Answer 2

Well think about it this way  - don't you think it's a distinct probability that things happen on "business trips" that you don't know about?  

So what if he doesn't know - what he doesn't know won't hurt him.  

That's how men think, why don't you try it and see if it works as well for you as it's worked for him?  

Answer 3

of course not, if your marriage is based on dishonesty, deceit and lies, then , no its perfectly normal.

Answer 4

If he is on the same insurance he will find out eventually I would tell him people get in accidents that's why we have insurance. He will probably be more upset if you lie.

Answer 5

people get in accidents sometimes. I'm sure he has before too. You need to have an open/honest relationship with him, and if he is that overbearing that he can't understand that you are human and got in an accident than he needs to change his thinking.

Answer 6

you should tell him, you shouldn't have any secrets from each other! He will find out sooner or later!

Answer 7

i think he'd be more upset if you kept it from him, you wouldn't want him to find out any other way then by you. if you want your marriage to work you should always tell him the truth.

Answer 8

If he won't find out don't tell him - bigger problem is that you have to keep secrets like this from him.  Shouldn't husband be best friend, biggest supporter?  I was married to one like yours, it's too much work.  It's evil for him to make you afraid to tell him things.

Answer 9

Just imagine how angry he will be if and when he finds out about the accident and that you didnt believe in him enough to tell him about it. Two wrongs wont make this situation right. You arent giving your husband credit enough for how he will react to this accident. He will probably be more concerned on how you are

Answer 10

Tell him. I would be more pissed if I found out later you were hding it.

Answer 11

I don't think your husband would care about the state of your car, but rather that you're ok. I got into a car accident last year, and thought the same thing, but when I called my husband to tell him...the first thing he said was "Are you sure you're ok? I don't care about how the car is doing". If the car's going to be fixed, then you have no worries. Vehicles are easily repaired most of the time, people-not so much.

Answer 12

why wouldnt you tell him.

Answer 13

You are human, let him get angry; but, tell him the truth about the accident. He will get over the anger. He possibly will not get over the feeling of betrayal, untrust that may exist if he finds out another way, that you had an accident and you never told him about it. You two are on the same insurance, I assume, so it will come out at some point to his attention. Be honest and ignore his rantings.  

Answer 14

Is there more to the story that you are not telling us.

TELL HIM! Its not worth the drama if you try and hide it from him.  

Answer 15

Yes, you are safe, just make sure he does NOT come home before that day!!!

I had my share of "accidents", and I had to tell my  husband, because the guilt would be written all over my face, but if you are the type of person that can and will get your car fixed, and not feeling guilty about your husband not finding out, and not telling him, then you will be fine.

Two things, though, the money coming out to fix the car, is that coming out of both your checking accounts?? Or if you do the bills, and he will not know, then you will be fine.

Another thing, on how bad the accident was, if you come home with a shiny "new" car, won't he notice???

Mine would on a dime!!!!!

I should have said this first and foremost, thank God you are ok!!!!!

Answer 16

i guess he should be ok when he finds out that YOU are ok and not the car !

Answer 17

it was an accident...dont hold the truth about it..tell your husband cause he will find out...

hope youre okay tho...

people have accidents everyday..its not like its a rare thing..

also if the accident involved another vehicle and it was your fault he will find out cause your insurance will go up...

bite the bullet and tell him..