Is it ok that I’m not close to my stepdad?

Question

Yes, I love him & have accepted him as my parent & does what he say (at times). We had some rough times in the past, but that’s all behind us now. However, I’m still not as close to him as I am with my mom (whom I can chat with about anything). Is this bad?

The reason I’m asking is because I’m worry I might die & go to h**l because I wasn’t close to him or die & go to h**l because I might have still had a bit of grudge against him in my heart.

Answer 1

Hon,if you have hard  feelings for him,just pray for him and yourself, the LORD knows we rub one another the wrong way sometimes and HE is patient.It'll all work out.

Answer 2

No, I would not worry about it, for I have 2 step-parents.  I am closer to my Mom and Step-Dad than I am my real Dad and Step-Mom.  I would not worry about it, it will work itself out in time :]

Answer 3

Sweetie, you just be nice to him and respect him that's all God requires of you, he sounds pretty nice.  You don't have to worry about forcing yourself to feel love for him, that's not something you can force to happen anyway. Just be thankful he's good to you and your mom.  you've been through enough with a dead beat father. Don't put so much pressure on yourself, your doing fine.  He's lucky to have a step daughter like you! Trust me on this....

Answer 4

LoveStar

You know being a step father is a very hard job.

In fact it is mostly all work with no reward.

I was the step father for a girl from 3 to 16. 13 years then her mother and I divorced.

I raised her and I loved her. Often her true father could not be bothered to come to see her. Or if he did, when she was young, it was to user her to impress his girlfriends.

In the end she was angry with me.

I do believe I was a good father to her.

But a child will often want their "real" parent. Sometimes they blame the step parent, on a subconscious level (it means with out realizing they are doing it),  for the fact that the real parent is not there.

So, all I can say to you, is that I hope he treats you well. If he does you still may not realize how lucky you are for years to come.

Maybe not until you are a parent.

If he is a good person, you try to love him as best you can.

If you do the best you can, you have no woyry about h**l.

Answer 5

Even with 'regular' relatives..we are not close to them at times..so with a 'step parent' it's ok..not to be close..it takes time to adjust to step parents too..

Answer 6

you should give it more time. I dont talk same way with my own dad than i do with my mom.