Is it ok that i hate my dad

Question

he is selfish, he is always yelling at my mom, my sister, and me, he is stingy when it comes to buying anything that isnt for himself, he's always complaining that we are all idiots when he's the one that doesnt know how to do anything...the sad part is he thinks that he is the best thing in the world and nobody in family likes him either. is it normal to hate a man that has done nothing but ruined my life for 16 years?

Answer 1

You sound like my son! Your sixteen and its time you change your view.

My first husband was like that. No you don't hate your Dad, you hate the way he treats you and makes you and makes your family feel. He really feels inferior to everyone and does those things to compensate that feeling. You can TRY to make him feel better by not fighting about the issue and bragging on him even about the most minor things. It doesn't take much to do it. Even if he has a come back when you do brag on him, don't get your emotions in a spin, just stand firm and tell him you meant it. He probably doesn't feel appreciated and he should.

Work on that anger tho.. It almost destroyed my son and your worth more than that to yourself. You have a future too.

Answer 2

why doesnt your mom file a divorce? or you could just talk to him. if that doesnt work try counseling or something..idk.. if he treats you so bad try to stay out of the house, like playing a sport or hanging out with friends.  

Answer 3

dont think about hating, collect money and get out when you are 18 :)

Answer 4

yes. if hatred is what u feel, then there's no right or wrong to it.

your dad is being verbally abusive and demeaning your family. If he doesnt wanna change, and being so self-centered and egocentric as he is... i doubt that he'd wanna change, unless he wants to keep the family together... then try to talk to ur mom about it. she might be concern about financial, u kids and so much more. if she can't stand him either, then tell her it is ok to leave him. you all will be much happier and the 3 of u can start a new life without ur abusive dad~

if u mom loves him and can tolerate him, ask her to talk to her and tell her exactly how u feel... if u 've decide to talk to ur dad, stay calm. the last thing u want is a shouting match with a verbally abusive person. yelling won't get through to him... ~  

Answer 5

i feel for ya i have the same problem except its my step dad and my mom. but whenever that junk starts happenin i dont care if there talkin to me or not i just leave the house and so i am like never home. i feel the same way towards them and i am always depressed but thats why we have friends cause honestly they are the only reason im still here. but anyways maybe try to talk to your dad and tell him how you and rest of your family feels maybe he just doesnt understand but if he doesnt get the point then leave ASAP cause you dont wanna be around that it can mess you up in the long run trust me i have learned that from experience.  

                        good luck!

Answer 6

the best piece of advice you will ever get. think about it. please.

"you dont know what you've got until it's gone" believe me.

i know it. in a different, more painful, way.  

Answer 7

yes most people hate their dads...unfortunately.  but they almost always have a good reason.  maybe in time he will change, maybe not.  just know that the way he acts isn't your fault.

Answer 8

I felt the same way about my dad when I was a teenager so as soon as I turned 18 I left.  As I got older I started learning more about his life and all the things he had been through and made me understand him more and I sympathize with him.  I'm not saying your dad is right in doing what he does, maybe he just doesn't know any better and probably feels bad about it but doesn't know how to deal with it.  My advice to you is to do the best you can in school, get a job and move out when you are 18, at your age it is hard to understand why people are so miserable because you are young and full of life but you will start to understand as you get older...more like in your mid 20s so for now focus on yourself and your future and stop thinking about things you cannot control.  When you have your own life you get to make the rules and that is going to feel really good.  Good luck!