Is it ok to ask my fiance for us to drive to Virginia Beach instead of flying to Florida for our honeymoon?

Question

I'm really afraid of planes (mostly because of the height thing). When I even watch movies and I see people in planes it makes me queasy and nervous so I don't want to know what its like to actually be on a plane. We are getting married next year and he mentioned going to Florida but the drive there would be about 16-18 hours. So a plane would be most beneficial. I was thinking Virginia Beach, it would be a 9 hour drive. I live near Cleveland, Ohio. Do you think it would be ok to ask him that or do you have any other places to go that wouldn't be too far to drive?

Answer 1

As someone who loves Virginia Beach . . . yes, it is definitely okay to ask your fiance to take you there.  It's beautiful, and you will love it.

Answer 2

well, i guess it's fine for your honeymoon, but the thing that sucks is that this is going to be for the rest of your life. you're never going to be able to go anywhere that's far away because you're afraid to fly. no europe, no hawaii... i feel bad for your fiance.

Answer 3

It surprises me how many people are afraid of flying.  Mostly, I think, because I am not so I feel "What's there to be afraid of...?"  Then again, I am afraid of motorcycles and ladybugs, so I guess I understand.

Have you ever been in a plane?  Ever flown anywhere?  If not, discuss with your husband-to-be but be open to his side, too.  You can sit in the middle and keep the window shade drawn, you won't have to think about the heights.

If you have been on a plane and are this fearful, you need to tell you husband that.  Explain to him that this is not something that just "happened" and it won't just go away.

Either way, this is something you need to have a frank discussion about.  Your fear of flying is going to affect the rest of his life, too.  He needs to know about it if he doesn't already.

As far as the honeymoon destination:  You're with the man you love.  Who cares where?  That's my take on it... Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

I don't think there is anything wrong with you asking your fiance.  If you don't like to fly, then don't put yourself through it.  I'm getting married May '09, and my fiance and I are going on a cruise.   We are flying to the port, but that is b/c we chose to.  There are some ports close enough to drive to.  Good Luck with the Wedding and Honeymoon! And Congrats!  

Answer 5

If he truly loves you, he'll be understanding of your fear.

Just let him know what's going on, and you can plan something together. Two heads are better than one, and the only person you should be discussing where have your honeymoon or not, is your honey!

Talk to him.

Have fun, and enjoy all of it!

Answer 6

absoloutly, talk to him, your geting married and he dont even know you are scared of flying. Sounds like you should do some serious communicating before you get married, he is suposed to become your closest family hence the one knowing you the best in this world.  

Answer 7

we are driving to tenn for our honeymoon and we are in louisiana! going to a resort in the mountians , thats the only kinda camping i am doing

Answer 8

Hi.  Sounds like a good alternative.  If you don't like to fly....tell him!  Nothing wrong with that.  I LOVE to fly myself, but know of lots of people that don't.  I have never been to Virginia Beach myself....but I would like to go.  it looks really nice.  Yes, I think you have come up with a great alternative.

Answer 9

Don't take the plane if you are that scared. 9 hours versus 18...really is not a big deal. Take extra time off! Its your honeymoon. Florida versus Virginia Beach...you need to trade that off. If all you want is beach...either in the summer works. Plan a nice honeymoon...its good that you are thinking like this.  Most people blow all their money on the wedding day and forget about the honeymoon.   Have you thought about a cruise? Go to vacations2go.com...you can end up driving less maybe (no planes). Anyway, be happy on your honeymoon and splurge on yourselves, Take care!

Answer 10

Talk it all over with him.  Both of you should have input as to where you will go, and how you get there.

I have flown, when it was necessary, but I have always been an unhappy, white knuckled flier.