Is it ok to do this???

Question

hi..

i"m a 27 year old single mom..

my ex-partner and i lived together for 7 years and have 2 girls..

we split up 5 months ago, and recently i found out that two months

ago he got married to a younger girl back in our country whom he met through the internet..

the thing is that recently i also met some one in mexico and i'm going there for a week to meet him and also to have a brake fom all this stuff.

The problem is that he is married although he says that he may move out in a month or two and that he's tired of that relationship, but i feel guilty because i don't want her to feel what i felt back then, but then again i think that i sholdn't feel sorry for her because no one did it for me...i'm not hoping for a serious relationship and that's why i don't know what to do or think

what do u think i should do???

Answer 1

don t get caught up

Answer 2

No it is not o.k.- the fact that you are asking says that you know it is wrong - married is married. period.

Answer 3

I think you know you shouldn't go. Only go after he gets divorced.

Answer 4

Wow...kinda heartless there, eh? Treat people as you'd like to be treated. If you wouldn't want your partner s******g around on you, then don't be a party to it yourself. If you don't like being cheated on, why would you be part of a situation that causes someone else that kind of pain?

Why would any sane man or woman want to get with a person they KNOW will cheat? That's idiocy. Surely you can find a single guy to have a fling with...there are PLENTY that don't want a relationship but wouldn't be pond-scum cheaters.

Show yourself that you have values, morals, and a conscience...not to mention the potential years of getting your karma back in balance after such a poor move (it's not worth it!)

Evaluate why your taste in men took a nosedive after your last relationship...one would think you'd want someone better, even just to phuque, not someone as bad or worse.

Answer 5

and why are you feeling sorry????

the relationship has come to and end and both know it, just dont make it hard for the 2 girls sometimes is hard to let go  

Answer 6

Just because someone did it to you does NOT make it alright for you to do it to someone else!  The guy you are going to see is not going to move out.  Why would he if he can get women to visit him while he keeps his little woman at home?  

Besides, bad things can happen to single women in other countries.  Especially if you need your passport to get back.  And you don't know this man.  He could be a serial killer for all you know.  

Plus, if he is willing to cheat on his wife with you, if you get together - he will probably cheat on you with someone else.  Leopards rarely change their spots.

Your responsibility is to your two little girls.  They need their mother.  Concentrate on them for now.  Love will come along when you least expect it.  

Answer 7

The world would be a (much more) horrible place if everyone thought "Me me me!" and "Why should I look out for anyone else if no one looked out for me?".  It's selfish.

If one of your daughters (years later obviously) told you she was pursuing a married man, what would be your advice?  

Obviously I don't think it's okay to be involved with a married man.  These guys says they will leave their wives all the time but never do.

If he was so unhappy, he wouldn't still be with his wife.  And if he will cheat with you, he will cheat on you - think about that.

Answer 8

If this guy in Mexico is walking out on his wife because he's tired of the relationship between him and her then what makes you think that he won't eventually walk out on you when he gets tired of you? ,,,, The difference between you and this guys wife is that she's married to this guy ,,,, You weren't married to your X  ,,,, Just because no one seems to feel bad for you in your situation doesn't give you license to hurt anyone else the way you've been hurt ,,,, What happend to you is truly regrettable for sure and I do feel a strong sympathy towards you and your children ,,,, Your X is a total jerk and a loser and a user ,,,, In a way his new wife is in the same boat you are ,,,, What makes her think he won't walk out on her the way he did with you ?,,,,

Because he got married in so short a time after the break up indicates that there was something going on between him and her before he broke it off with you ,,,, He was stepping out on you and she could be considered a home wrecker ,,,, Do you want that same lable pinned on you after this trist with the married guy ?,,,, There are all kinds of fish in the pond so why play games with this guy ,,,, Hes not going to respect you any more than he respects his present wife ,,,, There's nothing positive about this at all ,,,,  

I can't see any future in this for you what so ever and because you have two little girls to fend for you have to do what's right  for you first before you can be any good for them ,,,,  I"ve said this many times but I'll say it to you too that to a girl a guy can be a thick novel or a long running series on TV  ,,,, To a guy a girl is just a chapter in that novel or just an episode in that series ,,,,   What he's planning to do with you amounts to nothing less than cheating on his wife regardless of their situation and once a guy starts that he'll never stop whether its with a girlfriend or a another wife,,,,

You could very possibly be asking for big trouble here ,,,, If he's willing to step out on his wife with you then there's no telling how many other women he's done this with already,,,,The greater the number the greater the chances that he may have contracted something and doesn't know about it yet or just doesn't care ,,,,  Believe me they have diseases out there that they don't even have names for yet let alone a cure ,,,,  You are exposing yourself to the possibility of contracting something that you'll have to live with for the rest of your life ,,,,  There are allot of people suffering from some one kind of a disease or another that was convinced that it couldn't happen to them ,,,, You and your children don't need this at all ,,,,

Like I said earlier there are no positives to this at all only negatives ,,,, Instead of comtemplating a trist with this guy you need to find someone that you can trust ,,,,   //    

Answer 9

You know what to do...raise those girls, love them, care for them and remember that they are a gift from your God.  Be courageous and stoic in the face of desire and lust...  good luck!

Answer 10

If you are going to interfere in a marriage it should be because you do want a serious relationship