Is it ok to feel somewhat offended by what my friend said, even though it was funny...somewhat?

Question

Ok, well my friend is biracial, mixed with white and black. I'm black also. Well, anyway, she was raised with all black people and I was raised with all white people. Today she was kidding around and she shouted, "hey black girl!" when I turned around thinking "wtf?", she mimicked me say, "huh?? what black people". Like I didn't think I was black. I felt crappy because I'm like, oh great, how am I ever going to fit in with all the black people I'm going to college with next year. I'm moving cities just so I can be around a more diverse community. I thought it was funny, but then it got me stressed :( I love being black, I just wish I could prove to people that I love being black. It's ironic because I don't straighten my hair, or say how I want to be light skinned. Yet, the people who do that, criticize ME for acting white. Ironic, i must say.

Answer 1

my homie said you think latino's are hot. is that true?

Answer 2

Sister you don't have to prove you are Black by acting a certain way. You can change your religion. You can change your nationality. You can change your name. You can even practice self mutilation and change your hair, skin color and eye color. You can not change your race. We are who we are down to our molecules. There is no Black dialect of English. English, French, Spanish, Germany, Italian, etc. are all European languages. There is the grammatically correct way to speak these languages and the grammatically incorrect way. The attempted at defining the way we speak English by the creation of the language dialect called Ebonics is insulting to Black people. As if we are so limited intellectually that we are incapable of learning the English language that we are relegated to speaking some sort of substandard, gutter dialect of English.

Sister continue to be who you are and not who people perceive you to be. Blackness is not measure by how much street slang you use when you talk. If anything the knowledge of who your people, what your people have achieved, where your people came from and how your people got here speaks scores of volumes more about who you are and what you stand for than knowing the latest dance or slang catch phrase.  You'll be fine as along as you are not consumed with being who someone thinks you are or wants you to be.  

Answer 3

Well you should really bring this whole subject to her over a cup of coffee (tea or whtever u guys like when ur spending time). Everything you told us tell her. she'll have to VALIDATE you for feeling that way & as long as ur calm & serene,   she should totally get u!! if she's a true friend of course. KnoW wht I mean??

Answer 4

It's perfectly normal to be offended by that.  I didn't realize until a few years ago that it was offensive to pick at someone like that.  I had a friend, he was black and I'm white, everyone picked at him that he was a white boy.  Then I stopped to think about it and felt terrible.  I apologized..he's awesome and I never meant to upset him and he never let it show that he was bothered.  He always laughed.  She probably didn't mean anything by it..just picking at you to make you laugh.