Is it ok to hate my mom?

Question

Well i have a right too but my family tells me i should definitely not. When i was born my father left and i never talked or met him. So he wasn't around. So my mom was a single mom. When i was 10 she started to make attempts to kill me but i didn't tell anyone till i was 12 because i was scared because she said if i told she would cut herself. She used to disconnect the phone lines so i couldn't call 911. She used to try and crash the car. She used to come after me with knives. She has 20 boyfriends a week. She has no standards and annoys me out of the wall!!!!!! But anyway at age 12 i got so scared from the night b4 i told my gram so now i live with her. after telling my gram all of these things she took my mom to a therapist and they said she was bipolar. So when i try to not talk to my mom i get yelled at. Because they say she wasnt aware of what she was doing when she tried it all. which in my opinion is bull! So i still have to talk to her but is it ok to hate her?

Answer 1

Yeahhh I think you have earned the right to hate her. I would try to get away from her, live with a different family member? h**l, I feel so bad for you I would let you come live with me!

Answer 2

Yes you can hate her but if she lvoes you still it's good to not tell her this fact.

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Answer 3

It would take a person not human not to hate her..., but look at it this way something you might not want to hear.Have you ever heard of someone parents or grandparents getting alzheimer's and now the person suddenly hates or dishonor the person when simply they are sick. Your mother in no disrespect is sick very very sick..

to give you an example.my best-friends mother was on crack and never took care of her she was in and out of homes and stayed with a men that raped her. Now shes going to Appalachian State and graduated high school with honors and looking forward to the future. she you have to get yourself out of a dangerous situation and of course think of yourself first and these people should be dealt with accordingly , but hate is strong but love is even stronger.  

Answer 4

of course its not OKAY to hate your mom!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

u should be mad ask your gram if she knows your dads number if so call him and ask him if he knows y she is bipolar  or if that is y  he left her

Answer 6

YES! omg thats terrible</3

im sorry

i hope everything works out.  please get a cell phone! you did that right thing by telling someone.  thats a hard situation.

feel better<3

Answer 7

wat a ***** arrest her

Answer 8

After reading what she did to you, I would say yeah. But it seems she's just mentally sick. Just don't let hate take over you. The best you can do is stay quiet. There really is nothing you can do so it can stop.  

Answer 9

Don't hate her for too long. The hate will eventually eat away at you and do you more harm than it will to your mother. Be thankful you live with your grandmother now and are safe.

Answer 10

I know it's hard, but for your own sake you should try to forgive her.  People make terrible mistakes in life.  You don't have to like her, but try not to hate her.  Write down all of your feelings about the pain she caused you if you need to and you can give it to her or tear it up, but then try to let it all go.  It isn't good for your health or soul to carry around hatred.  The only person it hurts in the long run is you.  Good luck.

Answer 11

yes.

Answer 12

YES I THINK YOOH YOOH COULD HAVE THE RIGHT TO HATE HER BUT IN SOME REASONS YOOH SHOULD FORGIVE AND FORGET.......I GET PISSED AT MY MOM FOR PAYING MORE ATTENTION TO MY BIG SIS OR BEACAUSE SHE GETS MAD AT ME FOR HAVING MY ROOM AL MESSY BUT ALWAYS FORGIVE HER AND THAT IS NOT EVEN CLOSE TO WHAT YOUR MOM DID TO YOOH I THINK YOU DID THE RIGHT THINK OF TELLING YOUR GRANDMA AND IM GLAD YOU LIVE WITH HER BUT I ALSO THINK YOOH SHOULD TRY TALKING TO HER AND TELL HER HOW MUCH YOOH DISLIKE HER FOR DOIN THAT TO YOOH AND ALL THE THINGS SHE DID WRONG....IM SO SRRY.......IM GLAD YOUR OK....

Answer 13

No, because your mother's ill. You should care for her.

Answer 14

I feel so sorry for you and can imagine what you have been through. However, bipolar ism is really a mental disease. Usually, bipolar people have to take medication for their whole life. I think the doctors are right. What she has done to you and her present behaviour is definitely abnormal and insane.  

Actually, you are free to hate anybody or nobody at all. It doesn't matter if that person is your mom or a stranger. but the fact is that hatred makes you mad and angry all the time. and if you don't stop it, it gets bigger as you grow up. and then the first person who is harmed by your anger is you. It affects on your social life and your relationship with others, specially your partner.

Thank God that you are not living with her anymore. I know it is very hard for you to forgive her,  but try to get over it. For your own happiness try not to hate her.

take care and good luck.

Answer 15

Sure, I hate my mom.  I haven't talk to her in over three years.  I told her that my brother molested me when I was younger and she didn't believe me and when my father died she didn't call me and tell me.

Answer 16

I used to hate my dad after he divorced my mom, but I met an older guy who told me I would never be whole until I made peace with him.  I did and I am more at peace than when I hated him.

Answer 17

Even though what your mother did is CLEARLY wrong, her mother and family members still love her because they have known her for her whole life and have seen her as a different person than the person you experienced so it's hard for them to hear that you hate her.  Honestly though, if you want to hate her, go ahead.  Just don't keep yourself angry forever..  Give it time and maybe one day you'll wake up and realize you don't hate her anymore (that's not to say you'll suddenly have lovey dovey feelings for her, but maybe it won't be hate either).

Answer 18

I would say talk to her therapist find out did she know what she was doing and shes playing games or she really had no understanding of what she was doing and really doesn't remember. You need to know the facts before you pass judgment  hate is a very strong word and you may not really feel that way knowing all ends of this situation. Was what she did to you or threaten to do right? By all means no it was totally wrong and you shouldn't have been left alone with her in that condition. But when someone is genuinely sick mentally they know not what they do and are totally different people. I hope you are healing from your situation and are healthy i would suggest also maybe try to talk to her about it you may discover some interesting things and get a better understanding now your older but you have to want to learn and have a form of closure to the issue or don't bother talking to her.

Answer 19

I don't think you hate her i think you are angry and hurt which you have every right to be and confused on how to feel towards her.It sounds like a very tough situation but you survived and now in a better place,some parents might not have even allowed you to move with someone else. If your mom is truly bipolar that's sad because it will be a lifelong struggle for her with many ups and downs,she doesn't need her life made any worse by living with the knowledge of her daughter hating her. I think you just hate her bipolarness not really her. i hope you guys can have a better relationship soon or some day.

Answer 20

NO, I clicked on the question to tell you yes but after I read she's a bipolar you shouldn't hate her I mean ask yourself would she treat you the same if she wasn't a bipolar you're her daughter, You should go see her..

but you're free to feel what you want to feel you want to hate her hate her  

Answer 21

your free to feel how you want... but whats it going to solve? nothing in my book

Answer 22

No, no, NO! you may hate yr mom but deep down, you love her. in a fit of anger you declare u hate her, but, once you've calmed down, you're back to loving her. I hate my mom is a TABOO!

Answer 23

seriously, hate her no...you cant hater your mom doesnt matter wat she does to u, although i would be extremely pissed at my mom and it is probly really hard for u, sorry if this isnt any help

Answer 24

do it like this.... FORGIVE... forgive but never forget... ull live life a lot better if u forgive her for what she has done but know that it happened and keeping ur distance...

Answer 25

yes.

i think it is ok to hate your mom.

if she did all those things to you.

but if she really is bipolar.

you have to understand that i guess she didnt really know what she was doing.

but i would prolly hate my mom too.

Answer 26

You can never hate your mom for whatever reason there is, because she took took care of you and raised you even how bad things the mom does she will always love you, because your her child!

Answer 27

wow you had a tough life

you could really dislike her for what she have done to you.

but at the same time just try to help your mom though this hard times for her cause she did make you

and care for you when you were younger.

but i wouldnt blame you for hating your mom.

i never been through stuff like that b4.

so i am sorry if i am not a help

Answer 28

Thats personal and private, would you want your child to hate you?

Answer 29

Yes it's okay to hate her.  You have to take care of yourself as a top priority and it seems as though your mom is not compatible with that.

Answer 30

Hate isn't the word hun. But yes, it's perfectly fine.

Answer 31

sure