Is it ok to have another baby so soon after my first?

Question

I am 24 and live with my fiance. We have a wonderfull 10 month old boy. We want to try for another baby now, as i want to study by corresspondnence and by the time my babies are in school/preschool I can go to college. My parents would rather my wait 4 years to have another baby as they were not too happy about our first to begin with. If I do that I may never get to finish my degree! I really want to have both my babies close together but i am so afraid of what my parents will think of me. its hard not to worry about what others say!! Please help!

Answer 1

I agree that I want my children to be close in age. But yes like the other anwswer said it is better to wait at least a year in between. If you are able to afford another baby and know that it won't hinder any of your plans then go for it. Parents don't always know best...thats such a different generation.

Congrats on your baby and I wish you luck with your next one :)

Answer 2

It's your choice not other peoples. I'm 23 and my husband and I had our first child June 28 '07. She will be 1 this month. 4 months after she was born we were pregnant again. My second daughter will be born July 28th. You can have a baby anytime you want to. You both want to try for one than by all means go for it and congratulations!! I wish you luck. You are old enough to make your own decisions. You don't need your parents to tell you what to do anymore. 4 years seems like a long time to wait for another child anyways if you want another one soon. Who cares what other people say. I really don't see why anyone would say anything. Tell your parents you two have made up your mind and you are going to try for another one. If they don't like it than it is their loss not yours. You will have another beautiful baby to love and cherish and your family will just have to get used to the fact you are living your own separate life. I wish you lots of luck and congrats to you and your  fiance when you do become pregnant again.

Answer 3

who cares what ur parents think its ur baby and ur choice

Answer 4

Your parents arn't having another baby, you are. Period. You are the one who has to raise two small children at the same time and you are the one who is going to have to make the decisions which involve raising them. I would say do whatever you and your fiance want. If your parents wern't very happy about your first they probably won't be very happy about your second either. However, you are obviously still on speaking terms with them or you wouldn't be having this issue and if they want you to wait 4 years before having another then obviously they are 'ok' with you having another one. I would advise though that it could be quite challanging and wanting to go back to school may not be the best thing to base your decision on, but that is up to you. Good luck : )

Answer 5

It's not your parents' decision.

Medically, it's best to wait a year+ between pregancies, to give your body a chance to recover.   But if you have a pressing reason to get pregnant again sooner (or you have an unplanned pregnancy sooner), it's not a problem.