Is it ok to send secret unknown letter to wife of my close friend to stop affair with other married lady? ?

Question

My good friend married and having nice square family, is having close relationship with other married lady. I want to stop it. I want to send secret letter to his wife, it should not affect his family adversely.

Answer 1

oh the drama; who needs it????

Answer 2

Do it!! And then sit back and enjoy!!

Answer 3

NO it is possible that your close friend already knows about the affair, women always know but they just do not want to face the problems that will be brought to her when the truth comes up.  Be there when she needs you, do not start trouble.    

Answer 4

Huh? What kind of soap opera mess is this? LOL!  Uh, I can't answer the question because the situation is too farfetched and weird, LOL. Good luck with other answers though.  Geez.

Answer 5

Uh, I don't think it's ever okay to send a "secret letter". Who is going to take that seriously? If you really want to stop it, either confront your friend or tell his wife. She deserves to know in a more reliable way than a "secret letter".

Answer 6

not a good i dea talk to him en tell him to sto if not tell the wife

Answer 7

You don't think a secret letter to his wife explaining that her husband is having an affair will effect their marriage adversely? It most certainly will.  But, if you feel it is something you need to do, do it.

Answer 8

Still using letters , better warn by emails as you will get faster reply for your instant delivery

Answer 9

Although this is your good friend and you feel your intentions are good. It is in your best interest to remain out of this situation. It is not up to you to stop it. You are not giving women enough credit, they know their husbands like the back of their hands, I am sure she is already suspecting something is going on, and it will all fall into place and the situation will be between them -privately--not you. Please stay out of something which is not your concern, it may cost you your friendship.

Answer 10

Nope. Do not get involved that way. Tell the friend u think his behavior is wrong, and you will not be able to remain friends, and keep his secret.  

Answer 11

yes u shud send the letter...someone shud atleast tell her about whats going on..be sure of what ur conveying forward that its all true.. n u being concerned about not adversly affecting the family i guess ur freind has already done enough by getting into this relationship...u cant really help him...u do ur bit as a freind n let both of them decide ...

Answer 12

I would send the letter....the wife/husband in these situations should know......just make sure you have all your facts correct before doing so!! :D

Answer 13

How about you send the letter to him, telling him of your plot to stop his cheating. Never tell him you did, and see if that makes a difference, then send to wifey if it doesnt stop.

Answer 14

your friend has a life of his own to lead...the most you can do is advise your friend of the bad choices you feel he is making. you can tell him he's wrong but after that you Cannot control the actions of your friend. you can choose not to associate with him after you tell him what he's doing is wrong but anything outside of that will be too far!

Answer 15

yes just be careful