Is it okay for ex wife to come into are house without me knowing

Question

I've been in a relationship with my bf 4 10 months now. He is in a divorce from his wife of 10 yrs. they have a 10yr old son together. She lives in the same community we do. she dropped off there son at are house (she lived in this house 4 10yrs with my bf) when we were out. I seen a text to her from my bf saying that the front door is open if she would like to check up on there son. And that he would be back home around 10pm. What upset me here is that my bf didn't ask me if that would be okay. I feel like that is a invasion of my privacy. How do i know if she went into are bedroom snooping around my belongings? I haven't confronted him on this yet. Do you think I'm over reacting. Is this normal for ex's to be invited into the home without the girlfriend knowing?

Answer 1

You're not overreacting.

It is a total invasion of privacy.

How would she feel if you just went into her house cause her door was open?

You need to talk to him about this and tell him how you feel and how it's violating.

Also, how did she know your door was open? She obviously has nothing better to do than drive by your house.

Answer 2

Ok, so you're already living with your boyfriend of only 10 months? He was married for 10 years and they both lived in that house? How long have they been divorced? I see NOTHING wrong with that, its technically still her house if they're not fully divorced. You say they're 'in a divorce' not divorced. If it was your house and he lived with you and she was doing that I would see a problem, but no. Get used to it, she will be around for a long long time....unfortunately.

Answer 3

Not only is it an invasion of your privacy, it's disrespectful & more importantly UNSAFE 4 the child. The front door is open & a child is alone inside?!?!? That's ridiculous! Even if u didn't live there, your bf should show enough respect & consideration 2 let u know what's going on w/his ex when it involves her having that much privilege. It's even more disrespectful since u do live there. As u stated, she could've gone n2 your bedroom. She could resent the fact that u now live in the home she lived in 4 a decade. Who knows what she does while u r not there! U r not overreacting. Tell your bf how u feel. If it is now your home, u have every right 2 have a say-so regarding his EX coming in! I wish u the best!

Answer 4

get used to it.  As long as her son lives there  then she will have a right to drop by unexpectedly and as long as your BF gives her permission she can enter the house w/o your permission.  

Also since they aren't divorced yet, she may still have part ownership of the house--that's something you may need to look into--if she is still part owner then she has the right to enter the house whenever she wants.

Do discuss this with your BF.  You need clarity on what you're getting yourself into so you can decide if he's worth suffering through some of this stuff or if it's more than you want to volunteer for.

Answer 5

h**l to the No....the son is welcome but not her.... be for real...do you go in her house...she  got to respect you!