Is it okay to be engaged quickly and wait a while to actually get married?

Question

so it is going on 5 months and he keeps asking me to be his wife. he says he wants me to have his kids and everything. i just dont want to rush into anything. when he asks me i cant say no but i cant say yes. i am falling for him even though i am fighting it. (i wasnt looking for love)i have a little girl and he hasnt really met her yet. so he would have to get to know her and my family first. does this sound to soon to talk about marriage? he even mentioned something about a month after we were talking and didnt say anything again till now. i could see myself with him, and i would like to have his kids but it is all so fast i dont know what to think.

so would it be okay to get engaged and wait about 2 years to get married?? (i want to finish school first)

i am 21 and he is 22

Answer 1

it would be ok to get engaged and wait to get married. it would give u time to get to know each other better and if things don't work out u can call it off. but if u both feel the same and want to be together then go ahead and say yea but wait the 2 years to get married.

Answer 2

i think you should tell him how you are feeling that you dont want to rush into anything right now that its all moving to fast for you but anyways yes thats a great ideal to be engaged for awhile good luck sweety

Answer 3

Yes. wait wait wait wait wait and wait some more. Live a little adult life before you tie the knot.don't forget to wrap up the sausage before it goes into the oven. You don't want any little buns cooking too soon.

Answer 4

I guess there's no big reason you couldn't get engaged now, but why? What's the rush? Tell him you'd like to get married to him someday, but your daughter and school are more important right now.  

Answer 5

i think its ok . My cousin get together since 17 and engaged at the age of 28 at last they get married at the age of 30 . So as for me i think after two nyears its ok . Afterall engaged means that you are ready to be his life partner bur just that he need to wait for 2 more years . I think if he loves you , 2 years is nothing to him . Take is 2 years as a test for you and him .  

Answer 6

oh yes that wise kids cost money ,my sis was engaged in the first year and married seven yrs later lol been together now 17yrs

Answer 7

Sure.  No need to rush.  You are both really young.  And, if he loves you, you do not even have to be engaged right now, he will wait.

Answer 8

I would think thre should be no problem,  I would be OK if my future fiance asked for that.

Answer 9

No. You are a mom first of all, so you need TIME. Date at least two years and then see from there.

Answer 10

Way too young. Let him know that you love him and want to marry him but not right now. You want to finish school first. No rush on wanting to have kids so early either. Your life will never be the same. When you do get married wait 3 years before having kids. You will thank me for that one.  

Answer 11

men at that age have this fantasy of what marriage is i should know i got married around that age to my husband who is a year younger than i am. we knew each other for 3 months when we got pregnant and 8 months when we were married. while i am so glad i had married him i also wish we had waited to know each other better. a marriage is a partnership. and when you really don't know anything about your partner it makes it hard on a day to day basis. i would suggest you tell him how you feel. if he truly loves you then waiting will not be an issue. and if it is maybe he isn't the one for you even if he may be the one for right now.