Is it okay to feel a little disapointed?

Question

I'm 7 months along and I know this probably makes me sound bad, but I have been having a hard time accepting the fact that I'll be having a girl instead of a boy. My siblings are all girls and I don't have any brothers. I guess I just really wanted a boy because they don't seem as fussy as little girls do. I mean, I know that if you raise your child right, he/she can be a sweetheart. But I am just having a really tough time accepting that my baby is a girl and I don't know why. When I had my ultrasound, I kept thinking I saw a p***s, but I guess I was wrong. I feel bad bacause I get upset about it sometimes. I don't want to try to have any more children because this pregnancy has been difficult, but I want a boy so bad. I keep having these dreams that she is really a boy and I'll give birth and they'll say, "Oh, it's a boy!" and that just makes me feel depressed because it's not true. I don't know why I feel like this, but I just do. Everyone thought it was going to be a boy, I did too. It seems like all my friends who are having babies are having boys or already have boys and they're like, "I wanted a girl" and I think to myself "yeah, I wish I was having a boy". I know it sounds silly that I would be upset over this because I know it's not the baby's fault, I guess I just really had my heart set on a boy. Has anyone else ever felt like this? And if so, doesn't it seem like women would want to have a girl more than a boy? It makes me feel bad because everyone thinks I should have had my heart set on a girl instead for some reason.

Answer 1

When I begin having my own children, I'll be happy with whatever s*x the baby comes out as. All boys, or all girls, I'll be fine with that. They're my children, and I'll love them.

I know you're disappointed, but once you give birth to your baby girl, I'm sure your feelings will change and you'll begin accepting the fact that she's female... not male. You'll just fall in love with her. She'll be your little baby girl!

Answer 2

Well I too wanted a boy the first time but I found out it was a girl I was stoked!!! All that truly matters is the baby is healthy...lots of people can't even have babies so be grateful!! God has given you this blessing so be happy!! Girls are so much easier...they potty train faster they talk faster and they are tons of fun!!! TRUST ME!! You will be so glad when you see your little girl!! Try not to sweat it!! Sometimes people just want the opposite s*x but when they have the baby they realize they wouldn't want it any other way!!! You'll be fine...Good luck!!

Answer 3

I know how you feel! I have two little girls and for both pregnancies I wanted a boy! At each ultrasound I was waiting for them to say it was a boy, but it never happened. I even asked them a few times to check again! It is ok to feel disappointed, and remember that you're not entirely yourself at the moment, with all the extra hormones.

Good Luck!  

Answer 4

No, i dont think it is like not normal. i think you just really wanted a boy. But remember. God does everything for a reason, when you have her you will be so happy !

Congrats!

Answer 5

yes when i found out my second baby was a girl i was dissappointed because my first is a girl so i wanted a boy. i had a third and it was a boy. let me tell you my girls are more boyish then their brother. he is a whinner and harder to take care of but very lovable. i was so upset when i found out she was a girl. my mom started to get me boy things because she swore it was going to be a boy. and all three of my pregnancys were very hard on me too but i just wanted another and thought i would suck it up and try again. good thing i did. dont worry though because once you hold her in your arms you will forget about all of that

Answer 6

wow you should of pick another day to have s*x on.... wow I love my daughter the way she was and when she came out.

Answer 7

Honestly, by the 7th month you need to be accepting your daughter as "your daughter".  I had three boys then a girl, I always wanted a girl.  I know this is opposite but understand that any mother that is hoping for one and gets the other is disappointed. I even cried hysterically during the ultrasound with my 3rd son, I was in a way heartbroken.  Anyway, I love him more than life and my girl eventually came.  God knows what you need, remember to think of your daughter as the one that chose you to be her mother.  That is very special.

Answer 8

I totally understand.  My husband and I wanted a baby boy so badly, too, but we're having a girl.  As long as she's healthy we're happy.  But oh man, I TOTALLY understand.  All the pregnancy dreams I have are of little baby boys.  I think it's okay to feel disappointed but don't let it interfere with your love for your baby girl. :)

Answer 9

I think most people have one gender in mind whether they admit to it or not. I wanted a girl and got a boy. It took me a while to get over but once my son was born I was thrilled. I still look at the cute little girl dresses when I go to the store but love my son all the same.

Answer 10

I was very upset when I found out my first was a girl. Just like you I have all sisters and there aren't many boys even in my exteneded family, I REALLLYYY wanted a boy. Even in the delivery room I kept saying its a boy even though I knew it wasn't. My daughter is now 6 and of course I love her to death and did the minute she was born. When I found out my second was a girl I yelled at my hubby right then and there lol. The third I was just like ok whatever fine its a girl I'm done!!! I'm still kinda hoping for a boy though!!! :) You aren't bad.

Answer 11

Yes, it's normal. I felt the same way when I found out baby no. 2 was a boy. I had a daughter first and really wanted another girl. I never imagined my life with a boy so when I found out I was kind of upset too. But by time the baby came I was more used to the idea and once you meet your child, believe me, you will fall in love no matter what s*x it is. My son is 2 1/2 yrs old now and honestly I could not imagine my life without him. He is awesome and so is my daughter. So you will be fine. You have some time to get used to the idea. Don't stress out. Remember, what is meant to be will be. Have faith.  

Answer 12

lol, I know what you mean! I'd personally rather have a boy instead of a girl for various reasons. But don't worry, it doesn't make you a bad person unless you actually start treating your future child differently for it.

Answer 13

Maybe you will still get a boy! I am a firm believer in Mum knows best. Keep in mind you are quite hormonal and that makes everything seem worse than it is. Also, it gives you an excuse to have another baby! Good Luck and Best Wishes, I'll secretly hope your radiologist is wrong!