Is it okay to get drunk with a guy friend who has a long-distance gf?

Question

His girl friend knew about us getting drunk together. However, when I asked to stay the night on the couch, he said his gf wouldn't approve. But apparently his gf approves of us getting trashed?? This guy is confusing me so much. He cooks for me, we study together..we hang out all the time. He tells me his whole relationship history. He calls me his best friend. What is going on here?

Answer 1

He sounds like a player.  Start distancing yourself from him.

Answer 2

sounds like he miss his gf and he is using you

Answer 3

umm.. i have a longdistance relationship and i wouldnt want my boyfriend to get drunk with another woman... maybe hes just being a good friend to you, youre the only one who can say if he likes you more than a friend or not.

Answer 4

Sounds to me like he considers you a good friend. I have lots of guy friends that I hang out with, get trashed with, eat with, etc.  Have you asked yourself if you want more from him?

Answer 5

Look guys are different than women you think you have something he just thinks youre a really cool FRIEND.  Youre just friends that is all.  His gf is pretty cool with you being friends cuz hes already told her he wouldnt want you in a million years etc.

Answer 6

how close of friends are u guys? most likely u might end up having s*x...!

Answer 7

DON'T GET DRUNK. IT'S BAD FOR YOU. SECOND OF ALL, TELL HIM TO EXPLAIN WHAT IS GOING ON BETWEEN YOU HIM AND HIS GF.

IT'S THE BEST WAY TO GO.

Answer 8

Maybe he just finds you so attractive he can't trust himself to keep his hands off you if he stays overnight? I'd take it as a compliment, personally.

Answer 9

He wants to be just friends....so leave it at that....If you have feelings for him you should move on

Answer 10

It sounds like he thinks of you as his best friend. He likes to hang out with you, study, get drunk. But he doesn't want you sleeping on the couch.

Getting drunk is just getting drunk. Nothing for a girlfriend to worry about. But having another woman sleep at his place (even if just on the couch) is too much for her.

Answer 11

you should fight his "gf" and youtube it... winner gets the couch

Answer 12

sounds like a player  

Answer 13

maybe he likes you but he doesn't wanna mess things up with you because he likes being friends with you

Answer 14

Ok, so now it's a long distance girlfriend that this guy has lol...ok.  Move on he doesn't want you that way or he'd already have had you be his girlfriend.

Answer 15

There is no GF the man is g*y

Answer 16

Well the first thing you need to ask yourself is if you have more then just friend feelings. Otherwise none of this would be un natural. It seem to me that he actually sees you as his best friend but do you?  

Answer 17

firstly do you like him alot?

  if so and ur hoping for a relationship with him? remmber if he is going to drink with you while he has a girl friend. then he will drink with another while out with you. and then some other girl will be asking the same question u r asking here.

You can always just ask him straight up. what his feelings are towards you. but let him know nothing happens untill its over with other girl.

if you just want to be his friend? then  thats cool. but adding beers, spirits. wines to any thing , most time all control  is gone. and people get hurt. weather its you him or her.

try to build friendships that are not based on additives. base them on good old charther. cheers

Answer 18

Plain and simple. He has his cake and eating it too. Girl, he is using you. Getting drunk with you while he has a gf, he cooks for you, study and hang out. He yaks about his relationship with her and you are letting him. You have a problem. You are helping him cheat on his gf. You have a crush on him. You are the problem. You won't respect his gf. Put yourself in her shoes, knowing that he is with another girl all the time and you say that you don't care what he does when you aren't around. Quit kidding yourself and decide what you need to do next....hint...(This ain't it!)  

Answer 19

sounds like he considers you one of the guys and respects his girlfriend enough to ask that you not sleep over.

Answer 20

okay so u get wasted with a friend

ive been drunk with a chickthat was going out with one of my friends and he wasnt even there and he knew

i had to sleep on the couch(well i didnt make it to the couch but whatever) and he didnt get mad u just need to talk to her about it and ask her whats cool with her

Answer 21

High school drama. Who cares, and yes it is weird

Answer 22

You are his best friend. However, he doesn't trust himself around you when both of you are drunk. Respect this and find a ride home with somebody who is not drinking.  

Answer 23

MAYBE HE REALLY DOES FEEL THAT YOU ARE HIS BEST "FRIEND"...I HAVE A BEST MALE FRIEND AND AT THE BEGINNING OF OUR FRIENDSHIP I WOULD ALWAYS HANG OUT WITH HIM , CALL HIM, GET DRUNK WITH HIM, MOVIES, MALL ETC. ANYTHING 2 FRIENDS WOULD DO TOGETHER WE DID, BUT HE LIKED ME MORE THAN A FRIEND THE WHOLE TIME, AND SO HE WAS GETTING MIXED SIGNALS FROM ME, AND I TRULY NEVER MEANT TO DO THAT, HE WAS JUST A FRIEND IN MY EYES NOTHING MORE. SO MAYBE THAT IS REALLY WHAT YOU ARE TO HIM.........AS FOR IS IT OK TO GET DRUNK WITH ANOTHER GIRLS BOYFRIEND?....I DONT KNOW THATS TUFF, I FEEL YOU SHOULD ALWAYS DO WHAT YOU WOULD (OR WOULD NOT) WANT DONE TO YOU. AND IF YOU HAVE FEELINGS FOR THIS GUY, TELL HIM, GET IT FIGURED OUT, DONT FALL FOR OR TRY TO GET ANOTHER GIRLS MAN!

Answer 24

It is ok to hang out with  him, getting drunk together is crossing the line though. If he is gonna do that with you then why not let you pass out on the couch??  I think it would be ok for you to sleep on his couch, not in the bed, but stay on the couch. If nothing is going to happen then what is the problem? Like he said, you are his best friend. Best friends crash on each others couches. Unless he is lying about having a girlfriend and he is secretly g*y, but I doubt that.  

Answer 25

She is confident that you two won't do anything together drunk or not.

Do I think its ok? No. I like to drink with an even number of guys or girls. Or girls that outnumber guys so the likelihood of something happening is slim.

My guy friends cook for me and tell me their stories too. Don't think anything of that :) That is how he expresses how much he values your friendship.

Answer 26

what's going on is you two do ENOUGH together already. if the dude doesnt want you staying the night then you need to except and respect. why do you wanna stay the night with him anyways? sounds like your trying somethin sneaky. why dont you get your own man anyways and stop spending every hour with someone else's?

Answer 27

sounds like you are hes girlfriend. tell him he is confusing you.  

Answer 28

there are a few ways to take this, one is that odds are he really likes you and wants to get with you or the not so happy to hear answer is maybe he is just using you to fill the gap that his girlfriend cant fill whilst she is away, it sounds to me like you need to have a chat with him or maybe make a move on him one night if the mood feels right, at least you will find out where you stand, or you could just carry on the way your going and not ruin what may be a perfectly Good friendship. by the sounds of it you seem to like him. i know its a hard one ive been there myself, i wish you all the best.

Answer 29

Sounds like either you are his best friend or he is meeting his in person relationship needs through you. The things he would do for his girlfriend he is doing for you. I also think there is a chance something could "spark" between you two. Hope this helps! ;-D