Is it okay to get drunk with a guy who has a long-distance gf?

Question

His girl friend knew about us getting drunk together. However, when I asked to stay the night on the couch, he said his gf wouldn't approve. But apparently his gf approves of us getting trashed?? This guy is confusing me so much. He cooks for me, we study together..we hang out all the time. He tells me his whole relationship history. He calls me his best friend. What is going on here? I know I would hate it if my boyfriend called another girl his best friend. What should I do?

I know I've posted this question before..it's just I'm so confused and don't know what to do.

Answer 1

If you wouldn't want your boyfriend to behave a certain way with other girls...then behave with this guy as you'd find it acceptable for your boyfriend to behave with another girl.

If he were a gentlemen, he'd have let you stay on the couch and then been careful not to have you get so drunk at his place in the future that such was necessary if he felt it wouldn't be appropriate to have you sleep over.

It's fine for you two to be buddies...after all, his girlfriend isn't local and he probably misses female companionship. However, don't take it beyond being a 'buddy' unless they break up.

Don't do anything with him, you wouldn't be okay having your partner do with someone else...y'know?