Is it okay to get trashed with a guy who has a GF?

Question

His girl friend knew about us getting drunk together. (GF is long-distance) However, when I asked to stay the night on the couch, he said his gf wouldn't approve. But apparently his gf approves of us getting trashed?? This guy is confusing me so much. He cooks for me, we study together..we hang out all the time. He tells me his whole relationship history. He calls me his best friend. What is going on here? I know I would hate it if my boyfriend called another girl his best friend. What should I do?

I know I've posted this question before..it's just I'm so confused and don't know what to do.

Answer 1

just be what a best freind is!!and unless he says other wise dont think anything else about it,otherwise your crosing the line of freindship and relationships

Answer 2

It sounds like he is your best friend. If he was interested something would have happened by now. Just enjoy having a good friend and stop trying to force things.

Answer 3

I would just be more discreet and not go round his after getting pissed!

Answer 4

To me it looks like he enjoys your company but he does not see you as a sexual partner otherwise he would of let you spend the night there.  You are pretty much his girlfriend except not sexually.  

Answer 5

getting drunk and what he probably thinks is intimate are two different things.  maybe he likes you but doesnt want to mess things up with his current gf.  depending on how long youve been wondering this he may become more interested in you and he may not.  i suggest you just let things play out.

Answer 6

Well, hanging out together and being best friends is okay.

But, he probably thinks that you sleeping over is crossing the line. I agree.  

Answer 7

just keep it simple with him, stay friends ... just put up some boundaries for yourself if u r getting confused  

Answer 8

ummm... no.

unless hes your brother.

Answer 9

He's a dog, find someone else to hang out with, no matter how exciting it is to be with someone that has a girlfriend but acts like they like you.

Answer 10

I think it kinda sounds like you like him and you're analysing everything he says and are wondering if there will ever be anything else but friends.  He's taken, I'd start hanging out and seeing other people more, because it sounds like you're getting 'fixed' on him.  I had a situation with a boyfriend where we were long distance and i really wasnt into him that much, i had another guy who was a best friend, i think he was like you in this situation, he was 'fixed' on me even though i had a bf but i kinda didn't see the signs or ignored them.  we got pissed together all the time and hung out nearly every day, my bf didn't mind because he knew i'd never cheat, but it got complicated because the best friend had feelings and it was messing with him a lot, which i assume your feeligns for this guy are probably messing with you.  

I reckon if you don't like the guy and the guy doesn't like you, there's nothing wrong with getting pissed with them no matter if you're single or not, as long as they're not the type try anything on just because you're pissed together and happen to be male/female haha.  And if someone's partner has an issue with it and they still choose to get pissed with you, it's their problem not yours.  I go out riding with a lot of guys all the time and their girlfriends hate it, but it's their issue not mine, no one owns anyone.  

as for staying over, well it can look pretty suspicius if a guy has a girlfriend, and then one morning a different girl is seen leaving his place.  

Answer 11

There's a difference between a couple of friends getting drunk together, and a girl staying over at a guys place (even if it is seperate rooms)

As for him calling you his best friend, you might have a problem with your boyfriend doing that with another girl, but that's you. If his girlfriend is fine with it, then that's her business.

Answer 12

Uh, you're like stupid for even drinking with a taken man and..uh like you need to back off before you like become 'the other woman" and ruin his relationship.

Answer 13

He probably really cares about you as a drinking buddy and friend. I think him and his girlfriend have a really trusting relationship. If you want to know how he feels about you then ask. Or ask him about his girlfriend and see his reaction when he talks about her, that will tell you if they have a strong relationship. It is possible to just be friends. Getting drunk with him is dangerous though with a taken man.