Is it okay to give the wedding gift at the bridal shower?

Question

Thought it would be nicer to give one good gift than 2 les expensive ones.

Answer 1

Sure Go For it!

Answer 2

I would get a small something for the wedding too because it may be seen as not giving a wedding gift.  Or put that int he card, a little note or something.  

Answer 3

The bridal showers I've been to have been themed towards gifts for the bride, like lingerie. kitchen or cleaning or other things primarily used for the bride.

Whereas wedding gifts are for the use and enjoyment of both.

I don't' think the world will come to an end, but since brides keep lists of who gave what when in order to send thanks, its going to look like you didn't give a gift or they will think they lost your gift in the confusion.

Maybe you had better tell the bride what you did first.

Not all gifts have to be expensive to be good, knowing what they want, need and like is just as important as its cost.

Answer 4

I really dont get bridal shower, just an excuse to get more gifts!

Answer 5

No, what you propose is not really "okay".

A wedding gift should be a gift of lasting value, such that the bride will cherish it for the length of her marriage and even pass it to the next generation. It can be something as simple as your good will and best wishes or a single bread-and-butter plate, or as extravagant as a sterling silver tea service. Wedding gifts are sent to the brides home, and are opened in private

A shower gift should be a small generic household item of the sort that is needed to set up housekeeping, but that is replaced from time to time: like tea-towels and paring knives. Showers are held to provide the bride with the household necessities, and are never held at the bride's home since she is never the hostess. Shower gifts are opened in public, because the point of the gift is the fun in opening them. Because they should be small generic gifts, any embarrassment due to comparing the scale of the gifts is likely to be avoided.

If you bring a big wedding gift to the shower, you will embarrass all the ladies who brought smaller shower-appropriate gifts. Send your lovely wedding gift to the bride's home, and buy a potato-peeler or knit some fresh dishrags to present at the shower.

Answer 6

Typically the bridal shower gift is something from the couple's wedding registry (often sent with the invitation to the shower). Then you can give a gift card or check at the actual wedding. It's much easier for the couple to leave with a bunch of cards than a bunch of wrapped presents. It would be inappropriate to give both at the shower.

Answer 7

I would think the bride and groom would appreciate your thoughtfulness.

Answer 8

I would never expect anyone to give a gift at the wedding after they've already given one at the bridal shower.  I think that will be just fine and appreciated.

Answer 9

You should really give 2 gifts. Maybe make something yourself for the bridal shower gift that way it comes from the heart but doesn't cost a lot, and spend more on the wedding.

You really do have to give a gift at the wedding.

If they get a nice gift at the bridal shower, they might be expecting something just as nice at the wedding.

So, my advice is not to give the wedding gift at the bridal shower.

Some ideas for a cheaper thoughtful gift for the bridal shower would be...

   -a scrapbook of pictures of the two of them (if you have pictures)

      

   -frame a picture of them that goes with their style

      

   -buy aprons and paint his and hers, or mr. and mrs. or something

        like that on them with fabric paint

Answer 10

Yes it is perfectly acceptable.  Normally the ones who give at the wedding are the ones not invited to the pre-wedding events, like the bridal shower.