Is it okay to hate someone the way that I do?

Question

When I was smaller I think I was molested. I don't know if that's called molestation. The old man touched me all around and I finally let go and ran into my room. The day after he asked me why I let him go (assuming that I wanted it or was enjoying it). After that I have tried and tried to talk to guy's and get with guy's and do all that mushy gushy stuff but I never could. Lately I been coming to conclusion that maybe that day ruined my life. Maybe it is the core into why I can't trust guy's much less go out with them. I hate him so much. I even wish death upon him. I wish that guy the worst. I hate him I really do, with all my heart. Is this wrong? Was I molested? Am I ever going to get over it? I'm seventeen and it happened when I was about 7.

Answer 1

yes, i think he did molest you. and i am very very sorry. he had no right. and you will probably never get over it, sorry. i can imagine how bad you hate him. have you talked to the police? its ok i think to wish he was dead, as long as you dont carry that out. (i mean killing him). so i am honestly very sorry this happened to you and i think the man that did it was just plain SICK

Answer 2

It's not really wrong.It's okay if u hate the guy cause he did molested u.U could get over it only if u let ur self do it and not think or worry about it.Just act like it never happened.U can't let that keep u from holding back on guys that u meet or like.U still should give them a chance or ur still going to be wondering why didn't I go out wit him or something like that.Maybe if u do get wit somebody u could definetly get over it.

Answer 3

its more then okay guys have no right to touch any young girl or boy in that area or anywhere >.<

Answer 4

Hi there

i'm so sorry you had to go through such a horrible event in life.

this man abused his power and did something so evil , i would hate him too.

i was molested too when i was 11yo and at gun point and i can tell you i hate him still but i see a social worker and my Psychiatrist and my social worker is helping me heal my pain and to recover and you can too it just going to take some time.

my social worker suggest writing in a diary on how you feel and draw pictures in a sketch book and both this works for me and Cognitive behaviour therapy and it all helps maybe you could try getting in to see  

a Psychiatrist or a school counseller it will help you in the long run.

talk to you later and take care of yourself.

Britney

Answer 5

Is it posible you are using this event as an excuse?  It is possible that you are developmentally delayed in sexual maturity.  

I think the hate and ill feelings you are wasting your time and energy on is eating you alive.  Learn how to forgive.  This man is probably more messed up then you ever will be.  

The Smart girl did not let her abduction and rape wreck her life, don't let your encounter wreck yours.