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Is it okay to have a baby shower for a family who already has five children(all boys)?

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They are adopting a little girl and their youngest child is a 3-year-old . She will be almost a year when they go get her.

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I think it is a lovely idea for you to want to host a shower. Ask the couple adopting the little girl. My son was adopted and I would have been flattered had someone hosted a baby shower for me. A shower is a celebration of a new family member. If the family doesn't feel gifts are needed (although with all the other children being boys I bet they would appreciate girl gifts), people could bring gifts that could be donated in the new child's name to a charity.

What a lucky family they are to have a friend as you.
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Absolutely! Maybe have it be a "book" shower, or something special like that. We adopted, and we had an open house welcome party instead of a typical shower. It was so much fun and everyone got to meet the new addition.
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Sure! this seems a great idea!!!

Doesn't matter how many kids they already have.

I actually have a suggestion. I did it when my friend adopted a girl from Russia.

I asked everyone on the bridal shower to bring with their regular present, a little piece of fabric and a card with a wish. If possible, a piece of fabric that was important for them.

We used all the pieces of fabric to do a "wishes quilt". My friend loved and the child loves it! it is her treasure :)
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It is not necessary to throw a shower, but I think it would be a great idea. We all know adopting is not cheap, so they will probably really appreciate any help they get.

I think waiting until the child gets home would be nice so everyone can meet her, after all every new life should be celebrated!!
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Most definitely. That little girl is going to need some clothes and toys because her big brother's toys and clothes will not work for her. The idea about a book party is a good one too, we just had guest bring a book to the baby shower to start the reading library for my friend's baby due in July. But I would make it more then just a book shower.
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Yes, of course. Each child is special and each deserves a shower. This happens all too much in large families where later children start to get less attention.
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Go ahead and have a party for the family, it will affirm that the child is now a part of the extended family and give her a chance to meet everyone.  Celebrating the new addition shows that each child is unique, not just 'another.'

BUT.....I would throw in a word of caution.  I am assuming that this is an international adoption, in which the child may be overwhelmed, confused, scared and a variety of other feelings about her new family and surroundings.  It's important to give her time and room to adjust before inviting a bunch of people over.  Check with the family before planning the event to see if their little one is comfortable in public or around strangers.
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yes, with the stress of the adoption it will be a welcome thing, just make sure to do it after things are finalized in case things fall through
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If you are uncomfortable with throwing a "shower" for the family, what about a "Welcome Home" or "Gotcha" Party? You could throw it for the family once the child has come home to them.  This would involve everyone and offer a huge support to welcome the new little one into the family.

But there is nothing wrong with a shower either.  My family threw a baby shower for me once my son came home (he was/is my first child), and my co-workers threw a baby shower for me before he came home.  It was great.
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I would have a welcome home party for heer
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It's generally tacky to have a shower if your youngest is under 5. However, I agree that a welcome shower is a wonderful idea, especially since it's a girl and they have all boys. Although, we had an adoption party for our triplets, and the best gift of all was a card for each of our four children (my husband and I met in a multiples group, we were both raising a set of twins) congratulating them on becoming a big brother/sister and a gift card. All four of the kids chose to spend their gift card on the babies instead of themselves. It's nice to think of the older children, it helps alleviate some jealousy.
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Of course. One it is a new baby and they still need things. adopted or not they will still need help. Also they have all boys what do they have for a girl nothing. Do it maybe call it an adoption shower or something with a cute catchy name. Maybe make a theme shower. In any event I believe it would be fine.
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Absolutely. I love adoption showers. In fact, I think it is a shame to see a couple adopt a baby, and no one offer to throw them a baby shower. *Especially* in this case, when this will be their first girl. This is most definitely a cause for celebration!

Here's a page with lots of great baby shower planning ideas:

http://www.diapercakewalk.com/pages/show...

Enjoy the baby shower!
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Its ok to have a baby shower whenever you are having another child be it through being pregnant or adoption. If they have all of the stuff they need from the previous babys she can always just ask for clothes and diapers things she will definatly need. you should always celebrate a child being brought into the family
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YES, ALL PEOPLE NEED TO HAVE SHOWERS TO HELP OUT.IF THEIR ARE ALL BOYS. THEN YES THEY WELL NEED SOMETHINGS FOR GIRLS. MAKE THE SHOWER A YOUNG GIRL SHOWER. YOU DON'T HAVE TO HAVE A BABY SHOWER. HAVE A GIRLS SHOWER. MAKE IT FUN. SHE NEED THIS LIKE A CAR SEAT AND CLOTHES AND TOYS AND JUST THINGS FOR A LITTLE GIRL....
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