Is it okay to have a make out buddy?

Question

ive got this guy friend down the street from me. i bop over to his house every once in awhile when im bored. we're friends.

one afternoon, he sat on my lap. i try to push him off and hes holding onto my hips so that i cant throw him off. i got frustrated because he knew i couldnt leave because my little brother was over playing with his little brother. and last time i left my brother, my mom had a fit. so i just let him stay.

i dont go over for a couple of days. later my brother wants to play with his brother so i go over. they were in his room huddled around the computer so i plop myself on the bed.

just as soon as i hit the bed, he scoots the kids out and is on top of me. me, being annoyed says "gee, while youre up there, give me a back rub." i assumed that would make him get off, only because we are friends. but no, he sticks his hands up my shirt and massaged me. our parents are best friends. i dont really like him, can he be a "friend with benefits"?

Answer 1

It's okay to have a "make out" buddy, but this doesn't sound like one.. This sounds like a friend that gives you backrubs. You didn't mention ANYTHING about making out. Haha.

Answer 2

It sounds like you don't want him to be, so you shouldn't let him.  No one has the right to touch you without your permission.

Answer 3

OMG, same situation.

i understand you! like you just wanna makeout,wether you like the guy or not, right????

i say go for it, as long as its not s*x.

good luck <3333333

Answer 4

"Friends for benefits" in general is ridiculous and pathetic.

For your situation, no. You don't like the guy, so why would you even allow him to touch you. Tell him to get the f*ck off, and if he doesn't, take physical action.

Answer 5

I think it's okay to have a make-out buddy, if you're comfortable with it, but you don't seem to be, and he sounds like he's trying to get some through you.

It's all right to have a friend with benefits - it's your life, you can do what you want, but if he's forcing you to do stuff you don't want to, and you're not really comfortable with it, then obviously something's wrong.

It's up to you. Yeah, you can be "friends with benefits" but if you don't really like him, but just want to make-out with him, then, aren't you kind of just using him?

Lol.  This is confusing.  Um... But yeah, don't do anything you're not comfortable with doing.

Answer 6

Sure but I wouldn't recommend you having casual s*x with him. You sure you don't like him? Just talk to him and see how it goes. There's nothing wrong with a make out buddy :) Just make sure you and him both can handle a friends only relationship because sometimes they are just hard to keep that way. Good luck!

Answer 7

Oh ew,

What a ******** of a friend, he's using you! If you don't like it, it's harrasment!

I say stay away from him, and talk to your parents about it!

Answer 8

well you have to tell him hes a friends with benifits so you dont lead him on. i dont know you may start to like himm things may change

Answer 9

don't be such a s**t. you should stand up to some perv guy because all he want to do is get in your pants. and sister, don't tell me you didn't already know that??

Answer 10

eww if you want mono! Friends with benifits are for harlets and man whores!

Answer 11

Honestly I wouldn't get involved with someone that I don't really like.  And it also depends on how old you are.  If you don't want him to be doing this kind of stuff, then you probly shouldn't be friends with benefits, because it might mean your not ready.  All in all it's up to you.

Answer 12

well i mean its up to you. if your okay with that then go for it. maybe in time youll start falling for him to. just make sure he doesnt try and take things to far. keep it slow and steady.

Answer 13

He took advantage of you.  Stay away from him or ask him to respect you.

Answer 14

I'm sure he will use you or any other girl as will all little teenage horny boys.  being a girl is more than letting a guy m********e himself at your expense.

Answer 15

not if you don't like him. its so not worth it, besides, you have the 'little brothers' and the 'parents' to deal with.

dont let him take advantage of you.

Answer 16

Its up to you and him. Who cares what i say or what anyone else says?

Answer 17

thats not a makeout buddy. more like friends with benefits. if you want to have casual s*x with him, all i have to say is wear protection and get some birth control. think about stds/pregnancy, and your emotions that could get hurt if you get attatched and he doesnt want a real relationship.... but good luck to you