Is it okay to have a married boyfriend because somehow i want to be happy ?

Question

im 39 years old and still single. i dont have a lovelife that's why i agree to have a relationship with a married man.

Answer 1

im not gone give u all the c**p about how wrong it is cause im sure you've heard it. but i will say, u feel unhappy now.......u r going to feel 100 times worse when u fall in love withthi man (which u will) and he's still married. it will feel like your heart falls out when u have 2 be alone for holidays and lovers times knowng you're in love with someone. Save yourself the grief. Plus its a huge self esteem killer to settle 4 being #2.

Answer 2

Hon, wake up, stop lying to yourself, you have "NOT" got a relationship, "he and his wife" do. I'm sorry to say, but your just the butt of the jokes for all close male friends and workmates. And believe me, when i say, the women at work know too.

   Look, in this day and age, there is "NO" such thing as the "other woman", although there are "other women". You are not the only one dear!!

   Nor can i believe a woman of your age doesn't know the facts by now, these men "rarely" leave their wives !!

   How does anyone get to that point, where they think so little of themselves, that they choose leftovers and last place ???

    And plz, do not use your age or relationship status as an excuse!!

   Had you had been married, you would only have already been divorced and 39, would that too give you the excuse to hurt another just because you don't know them.

    Not only can you now say your 39 and single, but you can also add to your character, that your now a liar, cheat and thief, so selfcentered you think life is "all" about you.  What happened to your dignity and pride ?

     I have more respect for a hooker, for she has no pretense about her, she is straight out honest about herself and her job.

     You have set your karma in motion and can't take that back, remember "what goes around comes around".

     So, in a couple of yrs, when you find your love, will you whine and cry, when you learn he is also courting another ??  

      And all for a lay, because there is absolutely no love there.  Better you should charge him, the word hooker carries much more respect than the name you bare right now.

      This is exactly where women end up, when brainwashed to believe, that all were meant to be married or taught that marriage/a man, is the only path in life.

      Fact is, your happiness, has always been in  your own hands, but you've spent your life looking for someone else to do it for you .

     We were not put here for the purpose of being happy! What little happiness we can eak out for ourselves in this life is a bonus.

     We are here to learn, to experience, to walk in the shoes, we did not get a chance to wear the last time round. To experience, gain knowledge and wisdom, to rise above the material, trapping of the physical world.

      Are you aware that some spieces of bugs only live 12 or 24 hour life spans?

      In the span of a universe, we are just as small and unimportant, just like them, we do have our purpose.

      And our life span is no longer than those bugs, our lives are but a grain of sand on the sea shore, when you think of the nature of eternity or history. That grain of sand that one needs a magnifying glass to see was once a huge rock or part of a mountain that nature, like life has beaten and worn down.

      The difference being, you were given a brain, the knowledge of right and wrong to guide you, choices and the ability to fight, that which is destructive to your being.

      And you have choosen to throw all you are into the wind to be broken apart and scattered.

       I suggest you start using that guide, brain and knowledge, reconsider your choices, reconstruct your life, before you've got no time left and "truly" end up alone and without respect for yourself.

       You have taken the "easy" way out, put yourself in a position of habit, a position where no one but married men will want you at least for now, even that fades with looks.

      "Happiness is not about getting what you want, but wanting what you've got", once you can do that, "all" else falls into place...the way it was meant too.

Answer 3

It's not wrong but you have to understand he will NOT leave his wife for you. It may be better to leave it alone so you wont end up getting hurt in the end.  

Answer 4

I presume you have realized the relationship is going no where? Also he doesn't love and respect since he already has a wife. Thus, he doesn't respect his wife, since he has a girlfriend. My honest opinion is no it is not ok.

Answer 5

I agree with Baja181. : D Don't do it... it's meeeeean...

Answer 6

Aghhh.... You don't have a lovelife because you allow yourself to stoop down to that level by messing around with a married man. Don't you even care about what he's doing to his wife? Don't you care? That's terrible. To satisfy your need for happiness you are willing to take it away from someone else? Lame....

Answer 7

What do you expect from this relationship?

Do you want to create unhappiness to others just because you want happiness for yourself?

Do you trust someone who betrayed someone else?

i gonna go for a no.

You will end up getting hurt. Let go before it's too late for regrets.

A nail on the wall even after removal will leave a hole.

Answer 8

It's selling yourself short, stabbing his wife in the back, and making you unavailable to Mr. Right. How can you look at yourself in the mirror? The kind of husband that cheats only thinks of whores, don't sell yourself short. Besides what comes around goes around, and if you ever do find someone they'll cheat on you too. If you don't make yourself worth a d**n, no one else will. Besides people get killed like that-

Answer 9

the most important thing is you are happy and your boyfrend love you too.

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Answer 10

baja181 said it best! you should really raise your standards! im sure there is some one out there for you

Answer 11

i think as long as your not having s*x with him.. and your just in it for companionship go for it :]

Answer 12

thats not advisable....your newfound " happineses" will be short lived and your start of all troubles will start!

best to review your wishes . . .

Answer 13

Com'on, he's not the only guy. Don't give up ur entire forest because of a tree that doesn't belongs to this plantation in the first place. I just pulled myself up a few days ago (Same plight as u but the only difference is I like him even till now). But I made a decision is to leave him before we go deeper and can't control things. My answer for u is NO. My advice for u is "Believe in Kharma"

Answer 14

One day that married mans wife is gonna find out and ur gonna wake up in the hospital or maybe you wont wake up at all. But then again you are the one who chose to be with a married man huh?

Answer 15

It depends from case to case. There is more to it than meets the eye. Does the guy reciprocate your love in the first place? If not, you should very well forget about it.

Answer 16

That's a sure-fire way to NEVER have anything other than an affair.

If you consider being used by a guy who belongs to another woman- then you obviously don't value the person that you are.