Is it okay to let my 16 year old daughter have s*x at her boyfriends house?

Question

they are both 16 and they have been dating for 10 months. i usually never let them go in my daughters room alone with the door completely closed. my daughter though went to me to ask for birth control and said they would use a condom too. should i find out if her boyfriends parents know? or if its okay for them to be doing this at his house? should i even allow them to be having s*x in the first place?

my daughter is the most responsible girl, she gets great grades, and she doesnt drink or smoke or anything. her boyfriend neither.

what do i do?

Answer 1

Well, the truth is you can't actually stop them from having s*x.  Sure, you can stop them in your own home, you can even stop her from going to her boyfriend's house, but if they really want to have s*x then they will just find somewhere else to do it.  

I know it must feel a bit weird knowing that your child is having s*x or is even thinking about it.  I know I'm going to feel a bit sad when it happens to me too, but at least she is being sensible about it and asking you about contraception.  I don't know where you live, but here it is legal to have s*x at 16, so all I would really do would be to have a good talk with her.  Let her know about the different methods of contraception and how effective they all are etc.

For people who are saying that No Way should you have s*x young, that you'll end up a s**t, pregnant etc, that's a load of rubbish.  I first had s*x at 15, that was 20 years ago, and since then I've only ever slept with 2 more people.  

Answer 2

i THINK YOU SHOULD ALLOW HER TO BECAUSE SHE SOUNDS VERY MATURE AND RESPONSIBLE AND IF YOU DONT SHE MIGHT DO IT BEHIND YOUR BACK  

Answer 3

You're asking this on Yahoo Answers?  

Answer 4

You should let her- shes old enough to make her own choices, and is obviously responsible enough to come to you and talk about it. To the person above who hated parents putting there kids on the pill, would you rather have a pregnant daughter? I think its good that if your daughter comes to you and says shes wants to have s*x, you teach her how to do it responsibly. And its true, you cant watch her 24/7, if you dont let her do it responsibly, shell do it anyway, probably unsafely.

Answer 5

yes its fine and healthy , in england 16 is the age of consent anyway

at least you know where there doing it and being safe and any parent who says there kid sint having s*x is full of it.

Answer 6

If you want your 16 year old to turn into a s**t or pregnant sure go ahead and allow it. I can't stand when parents go right ahead and throw their daughter's on the pill it's basically allowing them to have s*x. I also can't stand when people say "Well I can't watch her 24 hours a day," why not? You brought her into this world don't you think you owe her the time and dedication to make sure she does right?

Answer 7

Well they are both 16 so legally they are allowed to, and if they are going to do this then it's better off being in his or her bedroom rather then behind a bush in a public park or something, And with her being upfront and honest with you asking for birthcontrol it shows a great deal of maturity that she is willing to take the necessary precautions.

So yes I would allow it (just make sure they know that you literally don't want to hear a thing lol) and that as long as they are responsible and take those precautions (pill and condoms) then it's ok. They are going to do it anyway it's better off being at home where at least they are both safe from predators out there.

and Tina - Get a friggin clue and open your eyes, it said her daughter ASKED for the birth control - the parent isn't just throwing her onto it (it shows good parenting that the girl is being mature and responsible by wanting to take precautions and feels comfortable enough to ask her mother for them), I feel sorry for you if you have children if they can't feel comfortable enough to talk to you about anything, seriously that's sad someone of this day and age can be so judgemental and close minded.

Answer 8

Yes. You should be proud that your daughter is mature enough to discuss this with you.  

Answer 9

I think that it is ok for them to be having s*x and even if you don't you no you can't stop them because if they're going to do it they're going to do it and if you don't allow it they will prob. go behind your back and she could end up pregnant so i would suggest that you go have her put on birth-control go buy her some condoms to make sure she is safe