Is it okay to not have a MOH?

Question

I know (at least for the most part) who I want to ask as my bridesmaids. My problem is I can't choose a MOH between them. Is it alright if I just have bridesmaids?? Could my fiance still have a best man if I don't??

Answer 1

Sure it is, and yes he can. His best man would just be paired with one of the bridesmaids.

Answer 2

I think it's fine, but take into consideration all the duties of a M.O.H and be prepared to handle them yourself..

I printed this list out from the internet for my Maid Oh Honor, they are the traditional roles of the Maid Of Honor

Maid Oh Honor Traditional Duties

*Attending all prenuptial parties.

*Help address invitations and announcements.

*Entertain a party for the Bride and Groom, if possible

*Assist bride with going away clothes and luggage.

*Be sure the bridesmaids are kept aware of their fittings,

Appointments, rehearsal obligations and any special duties

*Arrange with a florist for a supply of rose petals for the Flower Girl

*Assure Flower Girl knows her role of scattering flowers

*Arrive at the church or home early enough to help with bride and

Bridesmaids with dressing (at least two hours before arrival time)

*Remind the best man to which ladies will be wearing their flowers

(Mother, Grandmothers, Organist, Soloist, Readers, Hostesses)

*Assist bride with her train before and during the ceremony

*Carry the Grooms Ring

*Hold the brides wedding bouquet for the exchange of the rings and

Hand is back to her just before the recessional.

*Assist the photographer with identification of the bridal party members

And assuring the whole bridal party gets to reception early for photos.

*Witness and sign the marriage certificate after the ceremony.

*Stand in the receiving line. The traditional place to stand is

      At the grooms left side with her bridesmaids to her left.

*Assist bride with her changing into Going Away Clothes

*With the best man, help the couple depart

*See that the brides gown is taken care of according to her wishes.

*Assure Vendors are paid before and Assure clean up is done

*Assure Gifts are packed and taken to Bride and Grooms home.

Answer 3

Sure; it's your wedding; do what you want.

Your fiance could have a best man, but it may look a little awkward in the program.

The other thing that's great about a MOH, though, is that you have someone who you know you can turn to -- who's in charge of your bachelorette party, helping you with wedding details, etc.

Otherwise, your attendants may not know what they have to do or who has to do what.  If there's a way to break the tie, make your most responsible (and most fun) friend the MOH.

Answer 4

i was a bridesmaid for my cousin, who decided to not have a made of honor- so that there wouldn't be any hostility amongst the girls. on the day of the wedding rehersal, the priest asked for the maid of honor. my cousin (bride-to-be at the time) said that she didn't have a moh. let's just say that the priest was not happy (he wasn't a patient/ easy pleasing priest). he yelled at her- literally. he said that he needed her to have a MOH so that on the papers that you sign before the official wedding ceremony, actually document that you had witnesses at your wedding.

the same goes for having a best man- the bride and groom need to present a maid of honor and a best man, becaue those two will be documented as the official witnesses of you two getting married.

sorry to burst your bubble- best of luck!

Answer 5

Yes you can do whatever you want with your wedding!  Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.  Also, once you are married, none of this stuff will matter and nobody will even remember what you did/didn't do with your attendants!  Good luck!

Answer 6

Of course you can omit a Maid of Honor! And yes, your fiance could still have a best man and it would be perfectly acceptable. Its your wedding, arrange it as you like-- working in a flower shop, I see a lot of weddings. I've seen some weddings where, instead of a MOH, the bride and groom assigned a Best Woman in addition to the Best Man! Not to say that that is necessarily your style, but its just an example of how weddings can be a tad unique and still be traditionally beautiful. Good luck!

Answer 7

I am having the same dilema. I can't choose between my 2 best friends. You can definitely not have one if you choose, but my problem is that you still have to choose someone to stand next to you. I did get some advice that says just have them stand in order of height so you won't actually be choosing an order. Hope everything works out and good luck with the wedding.

Answer 8

I'm not having a maid of honour.  My bridesmaids are my 3 sisters and my best friend.  I don't want to pick one of them as "more special" then the others.  My fiance and I are planning our wedding together, on our own, I really don't expect someone else to spend their time planning our special day, it's our day, we'll take the time to plan it.

I think it's perfectly fine not to chose a maid of honour, the roles in wedding planning now are such that traditional titles aren't really that important anymore.

Good Luck!