Is it okay to return a present to the person who gave it to you(in the form of a present to them)?

Question

well i'm not doing this to be rude, but i wasn't sure if it's ettiquete-like lol. so there is this stuffed rubber duck pillow my friend gave me as a nonsense present and i don't really use it but i have realized she still LOVES it and whenever she comes over she ALWAYS uses it. her birthday is in about two weeks so i wanted to give it back to her since she likes it so much (not to be rude) along with some other gifts. so is it an okay thing to do? (she's really chill but can be offended without notice)

Answer 1

You can get her an identical one. Tell her that you know she loves the one she got you and you'll hope she will love this one too. I would not give her the one she gave you.

Answer 2

Most of the time, I'd say re-gifting to the person who gave you the item is EXTREMELY rude BUT...

If you phrase it right you may be able to get away with this.

Something to the effect of... "I know you love this pillow, you use it every time you come over. Why don't you take it?"

DO NOT DO THIS ON HER BIRTHDAY. MAYBE THE DAY BEFORE, AND NOT WHEN THEIR ARE OTHERS AROUND.

Perhaps the next time she comes over... or the occassion closest to her birthday.

DO NOT MENTION IT AS PART OF HER BIRTHDAY PRESENTS though. That would be tacky.

DO NOT MENTION THAT "She'd get better use out of it." THAT MAKES HER SOUND LIKE A CRAPPY GIFT GIVER.

Answer 3

I would wonder why you did it.  What did she mean by that?

Answer 4

Get her one of her own.

Answer 5

What you're describing would be rude.  Giving back a gift is always touchy, and you certainly can't claim it as your present to her.

If she likes it that much, you might try to get her an identical pillow, and say "Now we both have one!"

Or, if you think she won't be offended, you can offer it to her next time she comes over.  Say you love it, but you can tell she likes it so you'd be happy to give it to her "for her birthday."  But make sure to get her a regular present if you do this.

Answer 6

I would give it back to her, With other gifts, and let her know that you only did because you knew she loved it and thought she might get better use out of it.

Answer 7

I would find out where she got it and buy her one.

Its always rude to return gifts

Answer 8

I wouldn't give it to her as a birthday gift.  It's tacky to give someone something used as a gift, plus you have to phrase it just right so she doesn't get upset.  Get her something else for her birthday, and then the next time she is over and gets the pillow out, just say, "Why don't you just keep that?  I know how much you love it and will get more use out of it than I do."

Answer 9

i think it would be rude.  maybe lend it to her a few months after her birthday has passed, and do not ask for it back.