Is it okay to stop being someone's friend because you feel uncomfortable around them?

Question

Me and this girl have been friends for like 3 months. We met through my ex. It's a long story but basically me and my ex have been talking all this year, and he lied to me and I found out 2 weeks ago he went behind my back and married the mother of his child. I hate this guy for what he did to me and my friend who happens to be his sister in law talks about him when she's around me, as if he didnt even hurt me! And i think that's soooo rude she's not considering my feelings. I just want to remove myself from anyone that has to do with him before i lose my mind! She's about to move out of state in 1 week so i'll never see her again. I'm just uncomfortable being around her. She's having a party tonight and I dont wanna go. I feel bad, but I just feel like if I remove myself from his peoples I wont think about this anymore. I cant even attend her wedding because him and his new wife will be there. Would u stop talking to her? What should I do!

Answer 1

U shouldn't go cause you feel uncomfortable. If you don't really have a bond with her theres no reason why you should obliquate yorself. Plus she runs in the same circle as your ex so they will cause drama down the line. If she's about to move out of state its not a biggie. If you want to say goodbye to her on your own terms invite her out for a bite to eat and say your goodbyes one-one.

Answer 2

You cant let anger and hate take over your life like you are letting it. It will only make you more unhappy. Its not your friends fault what he did to you. And if you havent talked with her she may not even know why you are upset. Shes not a mind reader, shes only a human being just like you. I say you dont have to go to the party, but you should at least tell her why.  

Answer 3

Yes.  I think you should separate yourself from people who are connected to him.  If you don't, it's just gonna keep reminding you of the hurt and she obviously doesn't get it.  Sounds like it's time to move on.  It's a big world out there.  

Answer 4

The answer is yes -- stop being friends with the person.  Not sure I understand the whole story but if you don't feel comfortable around her and you don't want to be with her, end your relationship with her.

Answer 5

Yes I would stop talking to her. I would remove myself form her so that I don't have to be put down all the time. Just say your sick with the stomach flue or something. I would and you probably should do the same.

Answer 6

Stop by the party, say bye, give her a hug, and leave.

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Answer 7

well i think you should go to her party and talk to her confront her that you don't like it when she is talking about your ex. DON'T be behind the bush about your feeling.  

Answer 8

Don't be like that still talk to her just let her know how you feel about that. Just be like can you not say his name around me if she don't like it just say peace out have a nice trip see you next fall lol Bi*ch lol don't say that part.

Answer 9

Let's back this up, there could be a good chance that his sister-in-law doesn't know the whole story and she won't know talking about him hurts your unless you tell her.

Usually when you break up with someone anything that has to do with them hurts to be around so it's understable if you don't want to talk to this girl anymore. There is a good chance if you go that party your ex will be there and that's not good for you right now. This girl is leaving in one week, who cares if you ignore her? It's not like you're going to see bump into her anywhere. Do what's best for you.  

Answer 10

I would let her know how you feel. Just tell her that she cant keep on talking about your ex, because it just makes it harder for you to get over it. Tell her that you wont be friends with her if this keeps going. And if she agrees and say sorry, then go to her wedding, and bring a reaaally cute date to show off! ;) hehe!

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Thanks! And good luck!

Answer 11

Sounds to me like you're at the early stage of letting her out of your life, which is a good thing.

Answer 12

I would stop talking to her.  You aren't over the pain he put you through so she is just adding gasoline to the fire.

Answer 13

Your problem with him is exactly that your problem with him...she stays uninvolved because it is none of her business.  If you want to go to her wedding go and avoid him...if you run into each other just smile and walk away.

Don't force yourself to be her friend...she is probably not as desperate for friends as you think she is.  If you are going to go and have a bad attitude I say stay home and call to tell her to have a safe trip and sorry you can't make it.  If you want to go have a good time and help send her off with a night to remember then by all means go and don't live your life with a second thought as to what your EX would say or do.  He is not worth it!