Is it okay to tell his Mom first?

Question

We broke up and I havent had a period in a week its the weekend and I plan on going to find out for sure on monday. I'm trying to tell him of the situation but hes not responding to my texts or phonecalls and I dont think its right to leave it in a voicemail. If I find out monday that I am would his actions towards me make it okay to tell him mother what is going on and let her try to get through to him? IDK I keep debating back and forth if he even deserves to know if his going to act childish like that. I do know that i grew up without my dad and I still struggle with it everyday and I dont want my child to blame me for his actions when their older. Please help.

Answer 1

find out if you are first. make sure and take the test more than once, so you really know. i believe its okay to tell his mom first, but you should discuss it with your parent first. good luck, and i hope well.

Answer 2

Wait until you find out for sure. If you are you have every right to leave a message on his phone if he is not going to answer your calls. If you would feel better about tell your mom. She will advise you on how to handle him. For now don't do anything. Good luck

Answer 3

Well you need to tell him first. I agree with you not to leave a voice mail.If he doesn't want to talk to you one on one and keeps avoiding you I would go to the mother. How old are you guys anyways? Sounds to me that you are both pretty young if he is playing these childish games with not answering you.  

Answer 4

i would tell him if he don't care s***w him i have just about no dad it hurts but i make it fine

Answer 5

Yeah I would just go to his house and if he isnt there...then yes tell his mom. She might not respond like you want her to..but she deserves to know...this is her grandbaby. If he doesnt want to be part of this baby life...then there you go. You cant make him want to be...he has to want to be. I hope you the best...and who knows...you might not even be pregnant.

Answer 6

Wait and see if you're pregnant first.  If he won't respond to you, then you should contact his Mom.  She has a right to know about the baby.  Don't expect a baby to fix your relationship.

Answer 7

yes talk to the mom

Answer 8

hey if he wont talk to you, go ahead and tell his mom, he needs to know about having a child.

Good Luck hun!

Answer 9

you need to tell him first then tell your mom, cause you wont him their when you have the baby, then you and him come together to tell your  mom!

Answer 10

okay what you should do is find out first if you are or not because if you just tell the guy "you think" hes gonna be a jerk and be like just cuz you think... blah blah blah. so just find out first and if you are tell him but i relly dont think you should tell his mom cuz its his choice on that if he wants his family involved k good luck.

Answer 11

Yes i think u should tell his mom about it. she'll do wat she has to just dont tell his father.

Answer 12

If you are kind of close to her and know that she is not going to flip out on you and will help you explain or tell him then I would do it. If there is no other way to contact him. Good luck! :)

Answer 13

I think u should tell ur mom first so that u both could sit down with his mom but u should tell the baby's father first and see how he reacts

Answer 14

tell him 1st and if you live in cail list to tom on 97.1 or go to http://www.971freefm.com/ and listen to tom well how you out on this  

Answer 15

1. He needs to be told first, by telling his mom first you look a little immature

2.  He deserves to know, no matter how he is acting now or will react later

Answer 16

Of course you should tell him, it would be stupid not to. If he doesn't call you back, then yes, it would be the next best thing to inform his mother of the situation.

Answer 17

You just decide what you think is best. If you want to tell his Mom first, then do it. If you are pregnant, then he does need to step up. If he's not going to be mature and responsible, hopefully you're going to make him pay child support and she'll find out then anyway. But you do need to tell him one way or another. It's just whatever your heart tells you to do. I hope everything turns out well. Good luck!

Answer 18

Yes. I think you should tell his mom if he is ignoring you. =]

Answer 19

Whoa. Okay, first of all, make sure you ARE pregnant before you tell anybody anything. If you are, YOUR mom should hear first. NOT through his mom. After telling YOUR mom tell HIM, then you and the guy should tell his mom together.  

Answer 20

i agree, tell him first.

but before you tell anyone anything, make sure that you definitely are pregnant.

Answer 21

1. find out for sure

2. tell him first

3. be prepared to bring up the child on your own

good luck  

Answer 22

yea tell his mom... she deserves the right to know and she'll probably have some motherly advice for you and that. forget him just tell her.

first take a test though... you don't want to get everybody freaked out for no reason.

Answer 23

That is something that you can only answer for  yourself, sorry. I think you should make an effort to tell him (sounds like you are already) and then if he gives you no response...sit down with his mother. No matter how old men get they usually do what momma says LOL. As for not telling him...I don't think that is a good idea, because he will find out eventually anyway and it may cause a fight, and if you are in fact pregnant you dont need the stress.

Find out for sure and then go from there. Good luck.

Answer 24

for one, dont panic JUST YET.  my gf happened to go 2 weeks late on her period but i do know not everyones situation turns out the same.  you find him, grab him by the balls and tell him.  he sounds like a wimp/cry baby to me.  good luck!

Answer 25

Yes you should. It's better than doing nothing since you can't reach him. Good luck.

Answer 26

I'd tell him first.

Answer 27

if he is ignoring you then I would go ahead and tell his mother but when you are positive that you are preggers.

Answer 28

he is just as responsible as you are so you should tell his mom if you think that she will step in and make him support your child, but wait until you know for sure. by going to his mom he won't be happy about it but just know that you are not alone in this b/c it is his child too. if he is not supportive it is the law that he pay child support at the very least.

Answer 29

STOP , You CAN'T SAY ANYTHING, as YOU Don't Know anything Yet!!

U R only going to look Silly if you have just had a late Period, do A TEST , and work from the result.

Wait until you have FACTS.

Answer 30

i think you should talk to his mom about it so she could give hints . when she tells you its the right time, go to his house or find him and tell him. if he doesnt listen to you get his mom to tell him or whoever is close to him him.he needs to understand that a baby isnt a game and it would be easier to accept it. this is coming from a 11 year old

Answer 31

If he's not answering you, then maybe you should tell his mom first. You have to tell someone. If you find out that you are, just text him or leave a voice mail and say "I really need to talk to you about something very important." If he doesn't respond then tell his mom.