Is it okay to tell someone the truth when they ask if they're fat?

Question

i was lik "hun, your fat juss get over it" and she started crying but duh she asked. her dress looked like a mumu anyways and i was not about 2 leave the house with her looking like a cow.

omg.

anyways, is it rude to call someone fat? wat is a polite way to tell them they are fat and ugly?

Answer 1

I mean you prob said it a bit more straight forward than it should have been . i mean you could have said , well maybe that's not your color or something along those lines . But yeah someone fat asking if they are fat is bogus. If your fat then deal with it. i mean go exercise and go on a diet. i HATE when fat people get mad (especially hating on skinny people) because they are the way they are.  I mean if they didn't wanna be fat then they need to get out of MC D's and start eating subway!

Answer 2

You sound like you were just dying to tell her. Being just is probably harder to change than being fat. Good luck with having friends who appreciate your sweetness!

Answer 3

that was a bit rude :/ just try suggesting something else next time like that would make her look skinnier

Answer 4

look in the mirror your  probably not nearly as cute as you think you are anyways to answer your question it is not rude if they asked

Answer 5

I agree with GR.  It's all in how you say it.

You can be honest but you should also be diplomatic.  To hurt somebody's feelings is completely unacceptable.  Being brutally honest isn't always worth it.  

You're obviously young and immature.  I'm not saying this to be mean.  It's just that you have a lot of growing up to do.  You will learn that everyone deserves the same respect that you do, no matter what they look like.  It is who they are inside that you should judge.  

What you said was hurtful.  It wasn't cool.  Did you at least apologize for making her cry?   I'm not fat.  I wear a size 4.  But I have been called fat by people like you.  I have been called ugly by people like you.  People who hurt others to feel better about themselves.

You're a real winner.  You weren't about to leave the house with her "looking like a cow?"  And you think she's fat and ugly?  What kind of shallow individual are you?  

You acted like a b*tch.  You were insensitive and unkind to another person.  There is no polite way of telling somebody that they're heavy.   You could have simply said that her dress didn't look very nice...without making a comment like that.  It doesn't matter if she asked.  The point is that you were cruel.  I hope in the future you will try to be nicer to people.  You can speak your mind without being hateful.

Answer 6

Honesty can work.  If she asks if she is fat, say so.  However, you can tell a person anything.  It's not what you say, but how you say it.  But, there is just no excuse for being rude and hurting someones feelings.

Answer 7

it's probably the way you said it.  If she'd said 'does this dress make me look fat' you could have said 'it's not very flattering, why don't you wear the other one' or 'it's too tight under the arms/around the waist and you'll be uncomfortable' something along those lines.

Or you could say, we both need to get some exercise, why don't we go walking this weekend.

But honestly, if people ask if they look fat in something and they do and you tell them they do, they're only crying because you've confirmed what they already knew!  However, if she's a friend, you should at least attempt to go about it in a way that's not going to upset her too much.