Is it okay to where a black dress to a wedding?

Question

I know that years ago it was not right to wear black to a wedding, but I wondered how it is now a days? My boyfriend bought me a black dress to wear to his daughters wedding, because that is what the mother's are wearing. I am not her mother, but he wanted me to match them for some reason. I have a feeling they will be really mad. The daughter is the one who picked her soon to be mother-in-law & her mother's color of dress out, from what my boyfriend said. I just did not think black was acceptable at all still?

Serious answers only please.

Thank you ahead of time.

Answer 1

ms manners says yes you can,,,, there is no rule for that,,,, and a evening wedding a lot of people will be in black

Answer 2

I know black is "supposed" to be the color of mourning but this is the new millenium... black is in.

My step mother, who hasn't been involved in ANY of the wedding planning is wearing a black dress like my mom and my MIL, but its not that big of a deal.

If you are that concerned with it, ask her if its alright.

I've been having people for weeks asking me if this color or this dress is ok to wear and honestly, unless your in the pictures, I don't care what you wear! lol

Just talk to her, but honestly, its not that bi of a deal.

Best of Luck.

Answer 3

I almost always wear black to weddings, it is the most flattering/forgiving color. My mom wore black at my wedding. My friend had a black wedding dress. I think any color is acceptable these days.

Answer 4

I dont see anything wrong with it. Black is a very safe color.

I have a friend of mine who is having a wedding next weekend and all the bridemaids, mothers, and such are wearing black.

I don't see anything wrong with you wearing black either but maybe you can ask the bride to be sure she is ok with it if you are unsure?

Hope I helped. Take care.  

Answer 5

Black to a wedding is totally acceptable.  You may want to check with the bride and see how she feels about you matching the mother's though.  You don't want to cause any hard feelings.

Answer 6

Wearing black to a wedding is perfectly acceptable.  So you have no worries there at all.  If you wanted to add a splash of color, you could do so with a purse, shoes, jewelry, or other accessory.

As far as him picking out the black dress, I would advise that you talk to the bride first to make sure it's ok.  You don't want any surprises on the wedding day that you don't expect.

Answer 7

OMG ...do you really think only the mothers are the only people who are going to end up wearing black. Seriously black is like one of the most common colours people wear to a wedding so relax.  Just make sure the dress isn't exactly like the mother of the bride or anyone else for that matter.  

Answer 8

i would think it should be ok to wear black.... there is nothing wrong with it... good luck!

Answer 9

Wearing White is disrespectful to the bride. Black is cool.

Answer 10

well if u personally think its not good then don't dress black one be unique n stylish other wise if u look pretty on it just bring it on  

Answer 11

You most certainly can wear black to a wedding, provided you are a guest and/or in the wedding party and the bride has selected that color for her attendants.  I can see your concern, in that the mothers' are wearing black and you don't feel equal in nature, although your boyfriend wants to push the fact that you should be just as special.  Accept your boyfriends kind gesture and wear the dress he bought for you, but add some color via a necklace, brooch, belt, etc...

Answer 12

It is becoming much more acceptable, but I generally think that since there are so many other options out there it is best to play it safe when possible.

I think the bigger issue here is trying to match with the mothers. SInce she did not ask you to match, she and the moms may be upset that you tired to match them. Being her dads girlfirend, you may be in a tough position here and it may get a bit uncomfortable depending on your relationship with her and her mother. Even if you have known her since she was little, I just think its too risky.  Its your body and you will be the one to deal with the backlash if people get upset, so if you can try and find something else.

Answer 13

Black is fine, but do not match with the mother's dress. She would be mad as it looks as if you're saying you're the bride's other mother.

Answer 14

i personally think it's a bit harsh. and does your future daughter know that he's trying to make you all match? i would honestly pick something different from them but not clashing or stand-outish...like burgundy or brown or somethin...but black is kinda morbid for a wedding

Answer 15

It's fine and if the MOMs' dresses are similar to one another, your's should just blend and look perfect - hopefully! If your's is fancier looking, it may look like you're trying to show them up - which wouldn't be very tasteful. My suggestion is talk to the bride and ask her if she is comfortable with your dress, if it's okay.

Black is becoming very popular at weddings, so it's not the color you need to be worried about - it's more the style of the dress. Make sure your's is allowing the moms' dresses to stand out a little more. The mother of the bride should be the most formal.  

Answer 16

It is acceptable. Just make sure your skin is not white as a ghost because then it will look awkward.

Answer 17

Black is definitely acceptable...nothing wrong with a little black dress. Enjoy!

Answer 18

Practically everybody wears black to a wedding these days. Most people just like it for it's Slimming effect, others think that black is very elegant, especially for a night wedding. Black dresses can be very beautiful with extensive beading or lace. That's quite interesting that your boyfriend bought you the dress, what if you didn't like it?

Answer 19

Personally, I don't see an issue with wearing black to the wedding.  If it is an evening affair, the black is definitely acceptable.  If you are truly having reservations about wearing black and you have an open line of communication with the bride, I would ask her opinion as to what you should or shouldn't wear.    

Answer 20

In today's weddings, you see a lot more black than you used to.  It's really not the taboo that it once was -- lots of bridesmaids wear black now too.

I'd just ask the bride if she's okay with your dress.  You don't want to be competing with the MOB or MOG, or cause any kind of controversy (by the few old ladies who might cluck their tongue at black), so it can't hurt to err on the safe side and just check with the bride.  

Answer 21

You as a guest, can wear black if the reception is after 5:00.  Now the mother's wearing black- that is completely tacky and unheard of.  It's going to look like funeral.

Answer 22

go with your gut feeling - you say you have a feeling they will be mad. then don't wear it.  you don't want or need anyone to think you are trying to fit yourself in with the 'mums'.

pick out your own dress.  if your beau has a problem with that then i would suggest he has a hidden agenda of his own. besides you have your own mind, your own taste and you should wear what you want.  have fun at the wedding!  

Answer 23

It's fine to wear black to a wedding, as long as you wear other punches of color to make it non-drab, like red or pink shoes or something.

However, because the mothers are wearing black, I would either have your boyfriend ask them if it's okay to wear the dress he bought you, or e-mail or call them yourself and explain that situation, and that you didn't want to step out of line, and that you'd be more than happy to wear a different dress if they wanted you to.

Answer 24

It should be just fine. If he brought you the dress I too much wouldn't worry about what anyone else thinks.  

Answer 25

yes it is fine.. many brides maid dresses are black.. you can wear what you want.

Answer 26

You aren't supposed to wear white to a wedding. I never heard anything about wearing black.

Answer 27

I feel it is your union with your husband. Do as you both agree to do.  

Answer 28

No, kind of disrespectful.

Answer 29

I dont see why not.  I've worn black to wedding several times.  But if the daughter wants the mothers in black, and her dad said it was ok 4 u 2 wear black also, I think u should mention it 2 the bride.  Ask her how she feels about u wearing black also, since u'll soon be her stepmama.  Though the dad says its fine, u should ask her

Answer 30

If it is a formal or evening wedding black is fine. I think you should ask his daughter how she will feel if you wear the same color as her mother.  

Answer 31

You are completely fine wearing the black dress he has bought for you. There is nothing wrong with wearing black to a wedding in this day and age. I don't think anyone will think you are trying to copy color because black is such a common color and a lot of people wear black dresses to weddings these days.

My best friends wedding we wore black brides maids dresses, and many of the guests had on black dresses as well. It was a evening wedding too.