Is it okay too feel this way....?

Question

Somebody in my school died, they were in year 11 and im in year 7. I feel really sad about this but my friends say im doing it too get attention but i generally feel upset about it. She died in her sleep and nobody knows why :(

Am i right to feel so sad or should i get over it? I didn't know her but she went to my school

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Answer 1

Its ok to feel sad, But you should know you will always have people tell you that you do certain things for attention.

They dont seem like your friends to me if they are saying that stuff about you..

And they probably say that to make themselves look better. Its probably their way to prove they arent insensitive.

Don't be sad for too long though- enjoy life.

Answer 2

Of course..

The death of anyone is enough to make you upset...

especially if they are someone you can relate to, such as someone from your school.

Ignore youre friends they are probably not as sensitive as you.

Answer 3

YES IT OK IT SHOWS U HAVE A HEART. I SAW 2 WHITE SHEETS ON THE INTERSTATE IN ATLANTA SUNDAY MORNING WITH 20 COP CARS AND 4 SMASHED CARS I BROKE DOWN CRIED FOR 2 HOURS  ITS NATURAL IF UR NOT THE ONLY ONE U CARE ABOUT

Answer 4

Yes this kind of thing is big, maybe you are just more sensitive and caring. I wouldn't be able to stop thinking about it for weeks just like you. Trust me its a good thing to feel this way. x

Answer 5

I know EXACTLY how you feel.

A girl in 6th grade died in a car crash due to a drunk driver in April. I was in 8th grade. I didn't know her all too well either, but there's nothing wrong with feeling afraid, or sad.

If that's truly how you feel, you have to let those feelings out. Who ever said you were doing it for attention is absolutely heartless. The poor girl just died and they are making DRAMA of it.

Ignore her. If your sad, be sad. You will learn eventually that sadness blows over. I'm sorry for your loss, RIP.

Answer 6

yes.

you are entittled to your own feelings.

nobody should have any say in weather or not you're allowed to greive.

people have been trying to figure out how feelings work for years, and the farthest they've gotten is "when a dog wags his tail, he's happy."

if it makes you feel better, try sending a card to her family.

Answer 7

What your feeling is normal. Everyone grieves differently. Talk it out with your parents or school counselor and in time you'll feel better

Answer 8

ya that is comletey normal

dont worry about ur rude friend

you r just emotional and that is not bad

Answer 9

i know how you feel. it's okay to be upset. a friend of mine died and i grieved for months after, but many people who just saw him around in the halls were really upset, too, along with the younger kids. it's okay to feel sad and confused because you usually don't see the death of a younger person.

Answer 10

Thats awfull! I would feel sad too! Like when the 8th graders at my school graduated I felt sad but i didnt know half of them. If you wanna chat some time about it im avaible at [e-mail]!

Im sorry to hear that:(!

Answer 11

yea!u should be able to be sad its ur opion not thereS!

Answer 12

How you feel is ALWAYS just right.

Don't let anyone tell you how you should feel and how you shouldn't.  It's THEM they know, not YOU.  

The more you try to be like everybody else, the more worried you'll be about what people think of you.  

People always LOVE someone who is unique, ungarded and BEING THEMSELVES.  If you try to be "normal", you'll be perceived as weak and unsure of yourself.  AND YOU WILL BE!

The sooner you learn that what other people think of you isn't important, the sooner you'll be a happy person.  BECAUSE YOU DON'T GIVE A FLIPPIN RIP about what other people think.

Answer 13

its perfectly fine to feel sad about this!

maybe make they family a card or cooies to show ur respect!

but don't get depressed over it! but its fine to show emotion.

Answer 14

it's normal to care for others, but since you didn't know her your friends might think you are overdoing it.  Maybe try asking yourself how important she really was to you, and use that to gauge how bad you should feel.

Answer 15

aaawwwww don't worry it just shows you have a BIG heart, i think it's sweet. but DON'T drive yourself crazy over this

Answer 16

I am sorry to hear about that. It is okay, very normal and healthy to feel the way that you do. It is better to deal and sort through these kinds of feelings. Try talking to teachers, your guidance counselor, school nurse and or your parents about this. You should feel less mixed feelings after you get your thoughts off your chest.

Answer 17

death is a sad thing. last year a boy in my school deid in a car accident but he was in a different grade. i was so sad. i cried and was upset for the longest time even though i never knew who he was. emotions vary for different people, so it is normal to feel like that. loses of life are just so great it really gets to us. i wish her family happiness and love. how horrible.

but you being so sad shows how big your heart is and how much love you have. people are wrong to say you do it for attention, becuase its only out of feelings and love. i think its great your showing so much greatness and love twoards her without even knowing her. life is a beautiful thing, and when its taken away it can get emotional.

good luck

Answer 18

If you know you aren't doing it for attention you aren't.  It's okay to be sad about it everyone has their own way of dealing with death.  You could make an appointment with guidence or something at your school to have someone to talk about it with.

Answer 19

yesss!!

aww, i feel kinda sad now too!

..even though you dont know someone its still arright to feel sad for them! :)

Answer 20

its definitely okay to feel the way u do. its a sad story. i feel sad sometimes when i hear about death on the news. i dont think ur doing it for attention at all. mayb u should talk to ur school counselor  about how ur feelin right now.