Is it poor etiquette to confront someone about their weight?

Question

Please don't assume. I've never confronted anyone about their weight.

Answer 1

Yes, please mind your own business.  

Answer 2

yeap....Be silent. If you don´t have a good word for someone just be quiet....

Just confront about the weight if that person asking you...In that moment say him/her  the truth

Answer 3

It really depends on the situation.  If someone is constantly complaining about their health, it would be a good time to subtly tell them that proper diet and exercise are great for controlling blood pressure and reducing the risk of heart disease.  If they continue to complain after that, then it's perfectly appropriate to suggest they see a physician and that you don't want to hear about it otherwise.  

If it's someone with whom you're close, and you think they have not noticed that they have put on a few pounds, then I also think it's appropriate to tell them that you are concerned for their health.  

If it's someone who is taking up more than their fare share on public transportation, the best bet is to move, if at all possible, and if not possible, just grin and bear it.  

Answer 4

ummm yea..it none of your business why do you need to "confront" them??

Answer 5

It is really not polite to comfront a person about their weight no matter if they are a stranger or your best friend!  If you really feel that it is a problem and you are worried about their health, I would write a letter of concern to them or when you go out go to places that have a healthier selection of food.  I mean I'm not totally sure, but it's a shot.

Melanie

Answer 6

Yes.  It is.  Live and let live.

Answer 7

If you are their spouse or a close family member and you are familiar with their medical history and know for a fact that they are at risk of something - no.

If none of the above applies to you then you should say nothing.  You think about you and let the person think about themselves - just like in kindergarten.

Answer 8

TRUST ME fat people know they are fat.  

Answer 9

Why do you feel the need to confront them?

Answer 10

Depends on who you will talk to.

Someone whom you care about that is extremely over/under weight, may need to be confronted to bring to light some problem they may not want to face.  As long as it is done in love.

EDIT:

It's also amazing how everyone who has answered assumes that the person is over weight and not under weight.

Answer 11

Generally speaking, confrontation about any subject is poor etiquette.... weight, religion, politics, the weather, attire, etc.

Have a polite day.

Answer 12

Yes, it is inappropriate to confront someone on their weight.

The exception being if that person is your child or a close relative and you suspect an eating disorder.

But if you mean someone is overweight, then yes, I don't think it is right to say anything. I'm sure they know.

I also think its rude to mention that someone is too thin.

Some things are just personal. Weight is one of them.

Answer 13

2 things that I'd not bother about, someone's weight and proper etiquette. But than again, it's just me.

Answer 14

I am assuming yes,because my husband is over weight and I ask him things like does his body feel heavy,or I may ask him does he know he is fat and he gets really upset he says why do I act like a blonde. I just wanted to know I do not mean to be insulting but I just wanna know how do people get that big.

Answer 15

I think that in general it is rude, but it depends on who the person is. If a family member or close friend is so heavy that you're concerned for their health, I think it's fine to talk to them about it. ("Confront" probably isn't the best approach.) But for casual acquaintances and strangers, it's none of your business.

Answer 16

yes it is

unless it's a friend and they loss or gain a lot over a short period of time

Answer 17

Yes, it is rude to comment upon a person's weight, unless asked directly by that person.  

Answer 18

It's not poor etiquette exactly- if it's coming from a concerned friend or relative.  BUT, as an overweight person (at times substantially obese), I will say it's not helpful in any way, shape or form, and I tend to want to avoid those people who discuss weight in a confrontational manner (or any manner, without me bringing up the subject).

Answer 19

yes it is poor etiquette to do so.  what someone else eats, does not make you p**p.   in other words that is their journey.  on your journey, you should focus on why someones weight, or lack of it, makes you feel uncomfortable enough to confront them.  the only time it would be wise to do so would be if a person were possibly practicing bulimia [binging and purging] and you were part of an intersession.  if not, check yourself out and mind your business, not theirs.

Answer 20

Not a close friend or family member.  

Answer 21

As a general rule, yes.  However, that said, there are exceptions.  If the person is a friend or a loved one and they are morbidly obese and the weight is affecting their health, then I think something should be said (in a caring way, not argumentatively).  I don't think they should be hounded.  I just think the fact that you care about them and their health should be communicated to them.  

Answer 22

Is it poor etiquette to confront someone about their color? Or their gender? Their nationality?

Then why is it acceptable to confront someone about their weight? Because they're pigs and we need to let them know? As if they didn't already.

Our society does not tolerate racism, or sexual harassment.Then why is it ok to humiliate strangers in public about their weight? Do you think fat people have fewer feelings than a black person, or a female in a mans job, or a g*y? It's ok though, because fat people can stop eating, right? Just stop stuffing your face. Well, news for you. There's more to it than that. How would you deal with strangers making comments about your body every day? It doesn't even have to be about weight. What if you had a lopsided face? Oh, but that wouldn't happen, because you couldn't do anything about it.

It's not ok to confront anyone about weight.