Is it possibal to be in love with someone in the past and still be inlove with your present partner?

Question

My ex fiance has returned and been around for a year or so , with no talking { the two of us} But all a long I have never stopped thinking about him in the past 2 years . Im so scared and lost and weak. Is this possible to love 2 people at once?

Answer 1

idk

Answer 2

it is very possible to love two people at the same time... it's called a love triangle

but i really don't like that idea though... there will always be someone hurt  

Answer 3

i think when you are in love with someonbe,you have a sense of loyalty and respect and trust to that person ,that makes you see them differently to anyone else,so i dont think you can be in love with the two of them.

however i think its possible to be on love with one of them and love the other.you were probably with your fiance for a long time and you had the in love feelings to start with,which is there at the beginning of most relationships,but as time goes on that initial in love feeling  changes,to loving that person,especailly if you have kids together  or become more comfortable whuch in a way can be a deeper love.

however it seems human instinct always wants a challenge and a new high and that in love feeling.

now that hes back ,it quite dangerous because you probably still love him and why wouldnt you,he was a big part of your life,right?

so you will be experiencing the in love feelings all over again with him plus the l.ove you have two,which would be over powering and the other guy,your present guy would not stand a chance.

but if you did go back to your ex,it would become routine all over again in time.figure who you have the strongets feelings for.did u love your ex as much as you love your present partner after say  6months of being together?if u went back with your ex,would the challenge be gone?would you want your new partner back?

which one couldnt you live without?

i say give it a go with the current guy,spice things up a bit with him,if it didnt work with your ex the first time,it probably wont this time.youre probably attracted to the new ness and the new high it would bring and the challenge of getting him!

if you can answer any of these questions you may come closer to a]finding out who or what you really want!good luck,i hope you make the right decision for you.

Answer 4

Remember why is he your ex-finace!  and yes youu can love people differently.

Answer 5

Yes, unfortunately. Been there.

However, you've committed yourself to the here and now, so no matter how you feel about the past, you shouldn't let it change your future. Is the man you're with good to you? Does he love you? Do you love him? Is it a healthy relationship? If so, then be content where you are. It's ok to love, you just can't love the past man the way you love your husband/fiance/whatever. Think of the past as more of a dear friend rather than a lover.

Answer 6

I guess if you cant forget abut the past person yes.

Answer 7

Sure I guess.You love your mom and your dad thats 2 people.you obviousley love both of them for diffrent reasons so think to yourself why your other relationship did not work out and see which one you love more.Because its not fair to stay with your current dude if you love your past dude more!

Answer 8

yeah its possible.

Answer 9

I don't think so but who knows anythings possible.

Answer 10

Yeah I think you can. I have an 18 year history with my ex and although I will always love him, I still love my husband now very much so