Is it possible for a child to not love a parent for whatever reason,or is it genetically programmed in them?

Question

Is it possible for a child to not love a parent for whatever reason,or is it genetically programmed in them?

Answer 1

Two parts:

I think what we generally agree as "love" is genetically programmed into an infant.  An infant relies entirely on caregivers (parents generally) to supply his needs, and there are a TON of needs that are emotional.  The least of which are safety and security, then moving on to affection, and emotional nurturing.  Infants have to get that from some source before they're old enough to learn to talk.

When those nurturing and affection needs are not met, developmental deficiencies arise.  Children who don't learn how to trust grow up having fears of letting anyone close to them.  Children who don't receive emotional nurturing are victims of their emotions and cannot process anger and sadness in healthy ways.

So to a great extent, the desire and need to love our parents is genetic, and part of our need for them to love us and nurture us in all the complexities that come along with having this giant, complex brain.

But when a parent is inconsistent, or deficient in their own ways, that leads to relationships where children do not love their parents.  The most common developmental problems in children are created by missing or negative parenting skills.  These kinds of parents are probably going to have difficult relationships with their kids, and "love" may be impossible between them.

Speaking for myself, I don't love my mother, for reasons that have to do with volatility when I was in formative years.  I respect my mother, I admire her in certain ways, but I can't say that I will ever love her because there's too much strain from our past.]

Hope that answers your question.

Answer 2

What's love ?

Answer 3

In most cases, children love there parents.  If nothing more than the nurture from the parents while they were infants and unable to care for themselves.  At some point, some kids become overwhelmed with hatred for reasons only explained by immaturity.  It takes a long time for some kids to grow up and realize that their parents did what was necessary to raise them even if it meant telling them "No" a lot.  The word "No" is what causes kids to say they hate their parents.  

To actually answer the question, I don't believe that genetics has anything to do with it.  

Answer 4

no such thing as "genetic love"! it's all about how you were raised.. and yes it's entirely possible for a child to dislike his or her parents, for numerous reasons (none of them involving his genes, or at least not directly)

Answer 5

Just like what the people above me said, it depends on the parents

I am in fact one of those people who doesn't feel any ounce of love for my parents at all, I'm not gonna explain why (long story)

Oh and Im a grown up man, not just some kid who said they hate their parents cause they didn't buy him video games

Answer 6

it takes a lot of generosity and selflessness to raise a child, i give my parents credit for that, and i am extremely grateful

other than that, though, they're dicks and i can't stand them

i hope i grow up to be rich so i can pay them back for raising me by buying them a house or something, and then be done with them