Is it possible for a person to stand their ground and be nice at the same time?

Question

This is like a continuation of my previous question - Is it a mistake to be good to people that are bad to you.

How can you be kind and polite and yet still defend yourself when you need to against people that are bad to you? Is it possible at all?

Answer 1

That depends on the "why;"

If they are attacking you simply because they are out to have malicious fun at your expense, absolutely you have the right to do what you must to protect yourself.  In Shaolin Kung Fu there is a proverb "the thorn only pricks the hand of he who would harm the rose."

If you attempt to grab a rose in a harsh manner, its thorns will prick you, if you reach for it in a gentle manner, it will not harm you at all.  Many white people and Arabs do not know how to be gentle, hence the reason many of them have been killed in wars.  Righ now they are killing each other, and I think the world would be better if Arabs and Europeans just killed each other off, and took the ashkenazi with them, leaving the middle east and Europe only for misrahi Jews, black people, and Chinese.  In other words nice people; I think mean people should be exterminated and not allowed to breed.  See sometimes a woman's difficulty in giving birth, in having a child, could be that perhaps her genetic structure is so full of tendencies towards malicious cruelty that maybe god does not want her breeding.

Cruelty is as cruelty does; every action has an equal but opposite reaction, and sometimes, there is such malicious arrogance involved in the person attacking you, only severe pain and or injury will stop them.  Evil people, are more evil and poisonous than cobras, more disgusting than pigs, and more stubborn and stupid than donkeys.

They will play a vicious prank such as tamper with your DNA tests, and never apologize, stubornly and disgustingly, like a mule or a donkey, and a pig, refuse to apologize, their need to never apologize, being rooted in that like a cobra, they are full of evil, malice, and poison.  Thus an evil person will almost always have the qualities of the pig, the snake, and the donkey.  They are often disgusting beyond words, they are often black hearted and full of venom behaving with breathtaking arrogance and cruelty, and are every bit as low as that cold blooded reptile that crawls on its belly.  And, so full of venom and arrogant pride, even faced with injury, even if faced with anihilation, too stupid to realize its their cruelty that will ultimately bring about their destruction, they stubornly, like a donkey, and stupidly, just like a donkey, remain resolute in their desire to continue to inflict harm on others.

Thus, an evil person is more evil and poisonous than a cobra (and just as cowardly), more disgusting than a pig, and more stubborn and stupid, than a damned jack@ss.  Take for example, the danger America is in; Americans refuse to change their arrogant and cruel ways because many are more evil and poisonous than cobras (and just as cowardly), more disgusting than pigs (the women can't keep their legs closed, and the men are addicted to drugs), and more stubborn and stupid than donkeys, a donkey will remain resolute in refusing to move, even if you beat it savagely.  Americans remain resolute in being cruel, even if the world is no longer safe for the majority of them.  Same with the Brits too actually; the world isn't safe for them either.

Indeed with their great bellies, white men ressemble pigs.  With their gray hair later in life they ressemble donkeys.

Yeee haw!!!! hissssss.....oink oink.

Answer 2

It is called  being tactful.

Answer 3

Perhaps one only needs to do that which will stop the immediate attack in such a manner as to curtail the attackers ability to attack as one utilizes the attackers energy against the attacker him or herself.

Such is done without anger but with love for the one who is attacking.

This is the spiritual basis for self defense as taught by O'sensei Morihei Ueshiba in his "art of peace" called aikido.

It can be applied to all areas of ones life and in all relationships.

May you be well and wise.

Answer 4

Defending oneself is an attack Your brother will respond with another attack. When you know that you are safe without attacking, your brother will start to realize he is as well. That's known as "turning the other cheek." You can think of this as aikido. You can still be firm in your conviction that only love has power and communicate that as well.

You can use aikido verbally or with body language. That's what horse whisperers use.