Is it possible for a selfish man to fall in love and still act stingy toward the woman he's in love with ??

Question

Just curious, because my boyfriend was VERY TIGHT with money when we met, and now that he has fallen in love with me, he does smalls things to show me that he loves me, you know like take me out on dates, buy gifts (not too expensive) things like that,

but when I was in a bind, and asked him to help me pay a bill that was about $100.00 , he would not do it at all even though he had it in the bank, I'm confused, because I thought love changed people, and it seemed like he would want to help me this one time...

so could a man be in love, but still be stubborn about giving away his money, even to help the woman that he claims to love..????

Answer 1

Love does not change people, and if you plan on marrying this guy in the future, it's not going to work and he will never change unless he wants to. Yes, someone can be stingy with someone they love. How long have you been dating? I know if someone asked me to pay a $100 bill for them and we have only been dating a short amount of time [under a year], I wouldn't either.

Answer 2

I was head over heals in love with a guy like this. He 'promised' to help me with my bills when I had no job and take care of me, etc. But then when it came down to it, he got even stingier and refused to pay those bills. He even refused to pay for a car he helped me to get--and he is the primary person on the loan--so now that it has been repossessed (due to him not making the payments), they are going after him and he is mad about it.

I can tell you this:  your guy will never, ever change unless he wants to. The guy I was with got worse instead of change and eventually broke up with me (after lying to me and cheating on me--denying it even after being caught), and kicked me out (when I had NO job, money, or place to go). I doubt if this relationship with your guy will last long. Love does not change a person; only that person can change themselves IF they choose to do so. You knew that he was stingy when you met him and fell in love with him. Now you need to decide if this is something you can live with or not.

Answer 3

giving money away to anyone may simply be against his principles, and he won't respect you for not paying your own bills.

Answer 4

i don't know maybey, i am stingy too but with food when i am eating something really good i don't like sharing not even with my love ones which are my family its a habit what am i going too say =)

Answer 5

Yes, I married one