Is it possible for my friendship with a married man stay platonic this time?

Question

I am good friends with a married man. We just enjoy each others company and I ask him for advice since he is a father figure to me.

We have always had a father and daughter relationship until we got intimate. We didn't have s*x but I went down on him and we kissed. Things felt weird and I felt guilty about it since he is married. We didn't speak for 2 weeks to let all those feelings cleared up.

We decided to resume our friendship and things are back to normal.

He is 44 and I am 23

Answer 1

yeh youll be fine. youv done the intimate thing so its out of your system. just dont let it happen again and make sure you only have friend feelings towards him too...

Answer 2

Gee, it'd be best to leave it platonic. If the wife found out, it'd be horrible.

Answer 3

Dr. Marion Hilliard stated years ago in The Ladies’ Home Journal: “An easy companionship traveling at about ten miles an hour can shift without warning to a blinding passion going a hundred miles an hour.”

The original Hebrew word translated “trick” can also mean to “deceive, mislead.” If a friendship is a mere expedient for having a good time without commitment or responsibility, is this not misleading? When someone lavishes attention on someone of the opposite s*x with no thoughts of marriage in mind, is this not deceptive? True, no malicious motive may be involved. But does it not betray a measure of selfishness and a lack of concern for another person’s feelings? Trying to sidestep the issue by saying, ‘But we were just friends’ or, ‘I never made any promises,’ will likely not sit well with the rejected one.

And much more if his wife finds out.

But I just don’t feel that way about my friend,’ someone might object. ‘I’m not attracted to him [or her] and would never get romantically involved with him.’ Perhaps. However, the proverb warns: “He that is trusting in his own heart is stupid.” (Proverbs 28:26) Our hearts can be treacherous, deceptive, blinding us to our true motives.

Through his prophet Jeremiah, God warns us of this: “The heart is more treacherous than anything else and is desperate. Who can know it? Jeremiah 17:9, 10.

why a man will leave his father and his mother and he must stick to his wife and they must become one flesh.” Jesus quoted those words and stressed the seriousness of marriage: “Therefore, what God has yoked together let no man put apart.”—Genesis 2:18, 24; Matthew 19:5, 6.

Answer 4

This time? Is there a habit of looking for friendships with married men?

He is married, regardless of whether or not you think it is platonic or not he is married.

Leave it alone.

Don't be so incredibly naive to think all he wants is a friendship.

There is nothing normal about it, period.