Is it possible for someone to change who they are?

Question

I have heard so many controversial POV's on this subject. What I really want to know is, is it possible for someone to change? Honestly, if you are dating someone who just doesn't have that motivation and inspiration, can they find it later. Are you with someone like that now? If so, what's your story? I would like to hear lots of thoughts on this.

Answer 1

ABSOLUTELY!! I am learning in a big way lately that it is possible to change yourself.... many many times in your life... and so we should. Life is not always the same, take a look at the big entertainers... Madonna for instance who has been reborn into a new character many many time. We see the character, but change must come within, and nobody does it better than she. We live, we grow, we learn.... and i am learning that i dont want to be the same person i was 20 years ago.... so im shifting towards a new path.... one that is closer to the person that i want to become....and its fun recreating yourself.

Answer 2

its possible, but they need to want to, and it takes work.

Answer 3

My motto is: "You can't change nobody, but if they change doesn't mean they'll change into what you want them to." I spent half of my 8yrs with my husband trying to change him. I talked myself until I was blue in black in the face some nights. Do you think he'd get my view? h**l no! He just had to mature into some new ways. Funny you'd ask, my hubby had no motivation or inspiration. It took him until his 30's to see life in a new way. So yes, a person can find these virtues later in life. But it's important to know its not going to happen at your pace, even if it ever happens. Never try to change someone because YOU just can't. Either they'll take the path to your advise later at their own pace or they won't at all. You have to do with them or do without.

Answer 4

With out a doubt if you care about someone enough you can change, not yourself but certain aspects in your life to make eachother happy.  For example i used to be very sexually active and am not proud of it, but i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we have a beautiful son together and have not fooled around with anyone else, also he didn't work when we started dating, didn't have a license, didn't want to finish school. He really in general had no goals and now he has a license, a good full time job, and is a wonderful father who intends on going back to school sometime soon.  who knew?! :)