Is it possible that some people never grow up socially/emotionally?

Question

I've been told i'm intelligent & mature, and I agree with them, but socially/emotionally, i feel like I'm still in jr high. I'm not intimated by women, but can't seem to engage in conversation with them. I'd tried several times but either back down or come off looking like an idiot, or worse. I'm terrible when it comes to "signs", age, etc.

Answer 1

Could you have Asperger's?  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_sy...

People who have this are often of average or above average intelligence, but socially delayed.

Or you might just be inexperienced in social situations or need to work on picking up on social cues.  

Answer 2

To acquire social skills that are necessary for courtship.  You need to have relevant practice and experience.

Most people get this kind of practice and experience during their adolescent and teenage years.  And if for some reason you didn't get this kind of experience during your adolescent years.  Then you probably will have trouble making friends with women for the rest of your life.  Because there is no easy way for adults to practice and acquire this kind of experience.  

A good way to get around a problem like this would be to make friends with women from foreign cultures.  When people are not familiar with each other's culture and normal way of behaving.  Then they keep an open mind without too many expectations.  And they have a lot of tolerance for behavior that is different from what they are used to.

When foreigners meet.  Then they often simplify their behavior for each other in order to avoid confusion and cultural misunderstanding.  And this is true in intercultural courtship too.  

But for something like this to work.  You need to meet women who are very foreign and very different from you.  Because only then they won't know what to expect.  And only then they will simplify their behavior for you a lot.

Answer 3

Put your attention on caring for others..not whether others care for you.

Answer 4

take an IQ test if it is high then it explains it.

if not this will help:

http://www.wikihow.com/Special:LSearch?f...

http://www.wikihow.com/Special:LSearch?f...

there is a disorder that makes a person have a problem socializing and holding emotions but since you are smart you dont have it. you may be less exposed to social life so learn how to do it.

gud luck. : )